...emotionally difficult to organize their funerals, wakes, flowers, churches, minister and other important things that I have completely overlooked the most important matter. How the hell do I get my hands on my inheritance ASAP? I want the money NOW!
Long story short. I am an only child and last week my mom and dad both died in a car accident. It was so...?
Wow. My dad actually died and I clicked on this to console you. I hope you never try this again because to some people, it's not actually amusing...
Reply:If what you are saying is true, I cannot believe that someone who has lost a Loved one, would be without feelings, in this case the Lose of Parents, if one of my Daughters would say the same thing you said, I would be turning in my Grave, and when I could come to Earth, in Spirt I would make that Daughter of mine, wish she was never Born.
I am not going to say anything anymore, because I don't want The Yahoo, answers team to take away some points.
Reply:What the fu*k is wrong with you!? your freakin parents that just died in a car accident. What are you a 1 year old? You just lost the two most important people in your life and all you care about is freakin money. That's sick and wrong.
You are so unbelieveable if this is true.
~Kylie~=P
Reply:Are you serious? This has to be a joke because if both of my parents or any of my close family members died i would give anything to even hear half a breath from them.
Reply:well talk to a lawyer, and go to the bank, show them the dealth certificate, and see if they left a will, if your old enough to be arranging all of this, you wouldnt be so greedy.
Reply:Wow, talk about heart breakingly touching .
You seriously have problems - ugh ! ;) ?
Reply:you've gotta be kidding me...this has got to be a joke if you are concerned about inheritance in this situation.
Reply:What an ignorant *** you are..... But the answer is see the lawyer... He will take care of all your desires. Grant M in Pennsylvania
Reply:Lmao. . . . They're both gonna come back and take you with them so you won't get $%*#.
Reply:go to a lawyer for advice
Reply:You little.. UGH! YOU HAVE TO BE JOKING!
WHAT KIND OF SPOILED LITTLE ... JACKA**
that is so. wrong.
it is so wrong that I don't even believe it is true.
Reply:Wow!!! Your really a sad case.
Reply:Just ask 'em!
Reply:Some people never grow up..
Reply:sorry for your loss.
umm, i think you get full access to the money when you turn 18.
Reply:i hope they left u nothing if u care that little about their funeral
selfish a**hole
Reply:wow...you def. have some issues you need to sort out FIRST!
Sunday, February 5, 2012
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
I did know we were to cover our heads when we went to my friends funeral, I was one of the few ppl that knew before hand and my husband and I along with our niece went out especially to buy a head scarf for this occasion. I was only asking why we were required to. some of u don't need to be rude about it!!!!
Now I may as well ask one more question......
There were a lot of flowers and cards at the wife's funeral but none for the husband. I was so upset that my husband went to the kiosk and brought a bunch of beautiful white flowers to lay on the grave. Do Muslims lay flowers on graved? I ask because there were hardly any flowers on the other graves and we were in a section reserved especially for Muslims.
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
Friend, I myself was not aware of your other question, I don't know what country you are from, But here in the USA, many Religions has flowers or maybe a donation to that person favorite charity fund. My wife passed away in 1989 %26amp; she had flowers from many people. I know even here in the USA, the Muslum population may not have flowers,
Reply:OK let me try and give you a proper answer since Ive received 9 years of pure Islamic education.
Covering the head for a woman is a sign of modesty in Islam. It is required under all situations and not just funerals.
If people do it for the funeral..this is a cultural thing and not really islamic at all.
as for the flowers and the cards, these are still very much cultural and islam does not say anything about putting or not putting flowers on graves.
this is left upto the person..
the only thing Islam says is not to cry and wail out loud when visiting the graves..as it is a sign of immaturity and is disrespectful to the dead lying there.
Reply:you don't want to know
you want to insult
because you know by asking these kinds of questions some retarded will just insult Islam and that is what you want
not so smart
Reply:You said in your earlier question that your friends died suddenly and unexpectedly.
Funerals are rituals that people use to try to "put to into place" the profoundly disturbing experience of death.
It is very normal for people to want everything to go "right" and smoothly, and for the proper customs and observances to take their natural course. It's a kind of reassurance in the face of a shocking occurrence.
While few deaths are entirely expected, in this case it sounds like many people are struggling particularly hard to make this "right". This is to be expected.
Please give yourself the space to grieve in the ways that make sense to you personally. Don't worry too much about whether the formal ritual was "good enough" or not.
Reply:Don't be upset.
Sometimes muslyms can get really ANGRY.
Take Care.
Reply:if you go with a hijab to the funeral you are showing respect to Muslim traditions not to the late person.
Muslims don't use flowers in their funerals it is just a matter of tradition.
God bless
BTW your questions were very polite and showed that you cared to understand the traditions of Muslims. I am sorry that you had some rude answers as you said but they MAY not be Muslims who were rude
Now I may as well ask one more question......
There were a lot of flowers and cards at the wife's funeral but none for the husband. I was so upset that my husband went to the kiosk and brought a bunch of beautiful white flowers to lay on the grave. Do Muslims lay flowers on graved? I ask because there were hardly any flowers on the other graves and we were in a section reserved especially for Muslims.
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
Friend, I myself was not aware of your other question, I don't know what country you are from, But here in the USA, many Religions has flowers or maybe a donation to that person favorite charity fund. My wife passed away in 1989 %26amp; she had flowers from many people. I know even here in the USA, the Muslum population may not have flowers,
Reply:OK let me try and give you a proper answer since Ive received 9 years of pure Islamic education.
Covering the head for a woman is a sign of modesty in Islam. It is required under all situations and not just funerals.
If people do it for the funeral..this is a cultural thing and not really islamic at all.
as for the flowers and the cards, these are still very much cultural and islam does not say anything about putting or not putting flowers on graves.
this is left upto the person..
the only thing Islam says is not to cry and wail out loud when visiting the graves..as it is a sign of immaturity and is disrespectful to the dead lying there.
Reply:you don't want to know
you want to insult
because you know by asking these kinds of questions some retarded will just insult Islam and that is what you want
not so smart
Reply:You said in your earlier question that your friends died suddenly and unexpectedly.
Funerals are rituals that people use to try to "put to into place" the profoundly disturbing experience of death.
It is very normal for people to want everything to go "right" and smoothly, and for the proper customs and observances to take their natural course. It's a kind of reassurance in the face of a shocking occurrence.
While few deaths are entirely expected, in this case it sounds like many people are struggling particularly hard to make this "right". This is to be expected.
Please give yourself the space to grieve in the ways that make sense to you personally. Don't worry too much about whether the formal ritual was "good enough" or not.
Reply:Don't be upset.
Sometimes muslyms can get really ANGRY.
Take Care.
Reply:if you go with a hijab to the funeral you are showing respect to Muslim traditions not to the late person.
Muslims don't use flowers in their funerals it is just a matter of tradition.
God bless
BTW your questions were very polite and showed that you cared to understand the traditions of Muslims. I am sorry that you had some rude answers as you said but they MAY not be Muslims who were rude
What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
Do you say anything or avoid it? Do you go to the funeral or viewing? Do you send flowers or a card? How do you handle it?
What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
I lost my dad in 2004, and I am still not over it. There is not much you can say. You can let your love one know that you are their for them, and that if they want to talk your phone line is always open. There is something nice that someone did for me tho, they had an brass dove ornament engraved with my dad's name on it with date of birth and when he passed. I love that ornament because I can put it on my christmas tree, and just remember a few good memories, and it is like having a peice of him with me. Another thing is to pray for them that they are comforted in a way that is best for them. God bless :)
Reply:tell ur friend that he/she will get the best for next round. trust me!
Reply:offer lots of body language and few words.Actions speaks louder than words.Be a shoulder to cry on. Your presence at the funeral will be more support than you can imagine. Try distracting your friend from the grieving situation;possibly by taking them somewhere that doesn't spells death. to many words can cause added grief on this occasion.
Reply:i say if iyou need me for anything please call then after a week chex to see if they r doing ok yes if ur a close friend go to the viewing
Reply:Just let them know you feel for them, and you are there for them. If they request you come, or if you feel you knew their relative well enough, go. If not, you aren't obligated. A card would definetely be good, but flowers are not necessary. When a life long friend of mine lost his grandfather, whom I had been around for my friends life, I went and was there for him.
Reply:sometimes its best to not say anything at all. that happened to me and it made it worse sometimes when people said somethin about it. when they seem happy dont say anything but if they already look sad...it wouldnt hurt to say sorry or give them a hug..it would be good to send flowersl
Reply:The worst thing to do is ignore your friend's loss. People will often avoid the person who has lost a loved one because they don't know what to say, or they feel uncomfortable with that person's pain. What your friend needs most right now is a support system, friends who will just be there. Even if you feel that you can't think of the right things to say, your presence is what matters most.
Reply:you tell them that you are so sorry for there lose and that in time they will heal but it will take time and to give themselves the proper time to greive and that if they ever need anything that all they have to do is call any time of day or night and you will be there for them and that they can count on you for moral, emotional, and physical support.....
that you love them and know that it is hard but they are tuff and they will move on when the time is right and you have faith in there recovery from the lose....
Reply:offer them support don't fawn all over them if tell them if they need someone to talk to that you are there......let them know that you care but don't pressure them to talking about it.....tell them you have a shoulder for them to cry on when they need it.
Reply:I'm sorry about your loved one but it will be OK
Reply:It's always difficult trying to figure out what to say.
When my grandfather died, my friends offered their condolences but never brought it up again unless I wanted to talk about it. Even then, they said that he was in a better place and the suffering was over, and he'd want me to be happy. they didn't buy me gifts but they took me out to the movies, dinner, parties, and did other things to get my mind off it. You should let them know you're there, they'll return the favor because it's a new bond that's been made. You might want to accompany them to the funeral or viewing to show support, many people break down and need a shoulder to lean on. Be that shoulder, as corny as it sounds, but I cried on many that summer.
Reply:Tell them your there if they want to talk
Reply:If its a really good friend you should go to the funeral or atleast the viewing. Alot of people don't like people saying I'm sorry to them it just depends on the person. You'll do what you think is best.
Reply:tell them it will be okay and that it is nature
Reply:well tell them you are so sorry for their lost and everything will be ok do what you just ask all those things are ok but do not avod it because you are not a good friend you are not feeling what they are going throught.
Reply:All those things. A true friend is just "there." Let them do the talking, listen to what they have to say. Let them know that you are a friend because you are there for them.
Reply:Offer to go the funeral/wake with them. Even if you didnt know the person, your friend may need your support. Theres really nothing you can say, try to avoid cliches like "he/she is in a better place now" etc. Just tell your friend that youre sorry and be there for him/her as much as possible.
Reply:just be there for your friend. that would be better then flowers, listen to your friend when she needs to talk, you can tell your friend you are sorry and if your friend needs anything, let you know. thats what i did when i went through it, with my best freind, and i think that help her out alot till i lost her in a motorcycle a few years later.
Reply:Let them know you are there to support them. Go to the funeral if you are a close friend or family member. Think about what you would want if you lost someone you loved, would you want friends supporting you or would you want to be ignored?
Reply:I don't think they expect you to say anything. Just be there for them. Tell them that you are there for emotional support and if they want to talk. I'd go to the viewing and/or funeral if they wanted me there. I'd send flowers.
Reply:just be there. sit next to them. say nothing. they know. and when they feel like saying something, you'll be right there.
Reply:You go to everything you can, and just be there for them. Sometimes just being there, offering a hug, and listening is all that is necessary.
Reply:tell he/she that sometimes other people will make mistakes/// and that u could find some one else in the futur that is goni to be the one that u dreamed of(lol) hope u have luck finding the one
Reply:i lost my best friend in march. i lost my uncle (who helped raise me) in january. so i can definitely relate to this question. after my best friend died people kept coming up and telling me how sorry they were. sometimes people don't like that, but i did. it helps to know that people recognize how close i was to her. ya know? so that's my opinion. :)
Reply:it may seem lame but you say im sorry you have to feel so bad and ask if their is anything you can do to help
Reply:Try to stay postive and motivated
Reply:just b there as much as u can and try to understand all of his or her problems and show them that your always there when they need someone to talk to no matter what the situation may be.
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What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
I lost my dad in 2004, and I am still not over it. There is not much you can say. You can let your love one know that you are their for them, and that if they want to talk your phone line is always open. There is something nice that someone did for me tho, they had an brass dove ornament engraved with my dad's name on it with date of birth and when he passed. I love that ornament because I can put it on my christmas tree, and just remember a few good memories, and it is like having a peice of him with me. Another thing is to pray for them that they are comforted in a way that is best for them. God bless :)
Reply:tell ur friend that he/she will get the best for next round. trust me!
Reply:offer lots of body language and few words.Actions speaks louder than words.Be a shoulder to cry on. Your presence at the funeral will be more support than you can imagine. Try distracting your friend from the grieving situation;possibly by taking them somewhere that doesn't spells death. to many words can cause added grief on this occasion.
Reply:i say if iyou need me for anything please call then after a week chex to see if they r doing ok yes if ur a close friend go to the viewing
Reply:Just let them know you feel for them, and you are there for them. If they request you come, or if you feel you knew their relative well enough, go. If not, you aren't obligated. A card would definetely be good, but flowers are not necessary. When a life long friend of mine lost his grandfather, whom I had been around for my friends life, I went and was there for him.
Reply:sometimes its best to not say anything at all. that happened to me and it made it worse sometimes when people said somethin about it. when they seem happy dont say anything but if they already look sad...it wouldnt hurt to say sorry or give them a hug..it would be good to send flowersl
Reply:The worst thing to do is ignore your friend's loss. People will often avoid the person who has lost a loved one because they don't know what to say, or they feel uncomfortable with that person's pain. What your friend needs most right now is a support system, friends who will just be there. Even if you feel that you can't think of the right things to say, your presence is what matters most.
Reply:you tell them that you are so sorry for there lose and that in time they will heal but it will take time and to give themselves the proper time to greive and that if they ever need anything that all they have to do is call any time of day or night and you will be there for them and that they can count on you for moral, emotional, and physical support.....
that you love them and know that it is hard but they are tuff and they will move on when the time is right and you have faith in there recovery from the lose....
Reply:offer them support don't fawn all over them if tell them if they need someone to talk to that you are there......let them know that you care but don't pressure them to talking about it.....tell them you have a shoulder for them to cry on when they need it.
Reply:I'm sorry about your loved one but it will be OK
Reply:It's always difficult trying to figure out what to say.
When my grandfather died, my friends offered their condolences but never brought it up again unless I wanted to talk about it. Even then, they said that he was in a better place and the suffering was over, and he'd want me to be happy. they didn't buy me gifts but they took me out to the movies, dinner, parties, and did other things to get my mind off it. You should let them know you're there, they'll return the favor because it's a new bond that's been made. You might want to accompany them to the funeral or viewing to show support, many people break down and need a shoulder to lean on. Be that shoulder, as corny as it sounds, but I cried on many that summer.
Reply:Tell them your there if they want to talk
Reply:If its a really good friend you should go to the funeral or atleast the viewing. Alot of people don't like people saying I'm sorry to them it just depends on the person. You'll do what you think is best.
Reply:tell them it will be okay and that it is nature
Reply:well tell them you are so sorry for their lost and everything will be ok do what you just ask all those things are ok but do not avod it because you are not a good friend you are not feeling what they are going throught.
Reply:All those things. A true friend is just "there." Let them do the talking, listen to what they have to say. Let them know that you are a friend because you are there for them.
Reply:Offer to go the funeral/wake with them. Even if you didnt know the person, your friend may need your support. Theres really nothing you can say, try to avoid cliches like "he/she is in a better place now" etc. Just tell your friend that youre sorry and be there for him/her as much as possible.
Reply:just be there for your friend. that would be better then flowers, listen to your friend when she needs to talk, you can tell your friend you are sorry and if your friend needs anything, let you know. thats what i did when i went through it, with my best freind, and i think that help her out alot till i lost her in a motorcycle a few years later.
Reply:Let them know you are there to support them. Go to the funeral if you are a close friend or family member. Think about what you would want if you lost someone you loved, would you want friends supporting you or would you want to be ignored?
Reply:I don't think they expect you to say anything. Just be there for them. Tell them that you are there for emotional support and if they want to talk. I'd go to the viewing and/or funeral if they wanted me there. I'd send flowers.
Reply:just be there. sit next to them. say nothing. they know. and when they feel like saying something, you'll be right there.
Reply:You go to everything you can, and just be there for them. Sometimes just being there, offering a hug, and listening is all that is necessary.
Reply:tell he/she that sometimes other people will make mistakes/// and that u could find some one else in the futur that is goni to be the one that u dreamed of(lol) hope u have luck finding the one
Reply:i lost my best friend in march. i lost my uncle (who helped raise me) in january. so i can definitely relate to this question. after my best friend died people kept coming up and telling me how sorry they were. sometimes people don't like that, but i did. it helps to know that people recognize how close i was to her. ya know? so that's my opinion. :)
Reply:it may seem lame but you say im sorry you have to feel so bad and ask if their is anything you can do to help
Reply:Try to stay postive and motivated
Reply:just b there as much as u can and try to understand all of his or her problems and show them that your always there when they need someone to talk to no matter what the situation may be.
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Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I've been to plenty of funerals lately and I've come up with an idea...I'd like to purchase a cart (much like a hot dog cart) and offer items such as flowers, potted plants, american flags, sympathy cards, water and other funeral related items to mourners to purchase as they grieve. They can then take these items and leave them at the final resting places! Because it will be a cart, I could wheel it all around the cemetary to the different funerals. I believe there is a HUGE market demographic with this venture...
Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I hate to rain on your parade but I don't think that there is any market for your services. Furthermore, most cemeteries are private property and you'd have a rough time getting permission to operate such a cart. Think of it this way: If such a market existed wouldn't the private cemetery ALREADY have a little kiosk selling these items on the way in? Finally, there is the crassness factor. How are you going to do this? Drive your little cart up to the just stopped parade of funeral cars with bells dinging and a Requiem Mass blaring over the loud speaker?
Most people going to funerals wish they were somewhere else and stopping to buy a trinket for the recently departed will not add to their pleasure.
Your idea is creative but at the same time it will be a loser.
Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I hate to rain on your parade but I don't think that there is any market for your services. Furthermore, most cemeteries are private property and you'd have a rough time getting permission to operate such a cart. Think of it this way: If such a market existed wouldn't the private cemetery ALREADY have a little kiosk selling these items on the way in? Finally, there is the crassness factor. How are you going to do this? Drive your little cart up to the just stopped parade of funeral cars with bells dinging and a Requiem Mass blaring over the loud speaker?
Most people going to funerals wish they were somewhere else and stopping to buy a trinket for the recently departed will not add to their pleasure.
Your idea is creative but at the same time it will be a loser.
Friday, February 3, 2012
When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
The victims names are Lakeisha Boss, Whitney Flowers, Donovan Richardson, Reginald Walker and Anthony Scales
When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
try this site it's help you a lot of information
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24314457/
Reply:Chatham? What state? What country for that matter?
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When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
try this site it's help you a lot of information
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24314457/
Reply:Chatham? What state? What country for that matter?
Flower arrangement?
I am trying to sort some flowers for my grandads funeral we really want bicycle shaped flowers as he loved his bike so much ive searched the net and just cant find any can anyone help?
Flower arrangement?
You would have to get a silk florist to create this. I am sure it would take time %26amp; be very costly.
Reply:try ebay
Reply:What about having columbines. They look like wheels. You could also have a florist take a green oasis funeral block and make a bike out of different flowers. It would hang on a stand. It would be very cool. I did one that was a square and the flowers were shaped like the country Italy.
Reply:Call your local florist and ask them, It is not likely that you will find something like that ready made. I have seen flower arrangements in many diffrent forms/shapes/objects.
Give them a call and they should be able to arrange that for you.
Flower arrangement?
You would have to get a silk florist to create this. I am sure it would take time %26amp; be very costly.
Reply:try ebay
Reply:What about having columbines. They look like wheels. You could also have a florist take a green oasis funeral block and make a bike out of different flowers. It would hang on a stand. It would be very cool. I did one that was a square and the flowers were shaped like the country Italy.
Reply:Call your local florist and ask them, It is not likely that you will find something like that ready made. I have seen flower arrangements in many diffrent forms/shapes/objects.
Give them a call and they should be able to arrange that for you.
Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I'm working on thank you notes to people who sent flowers to my mother's funeral and was wondering what I should do for the pallbearers. This is my first time doing this, so I'm completely confused. I don't know the pallbearers very well because they were cousins of my mother and I have only met them a couple times. Do I send a card? A gift? What do I say in the note? I would have my dad do it, but he's a wreck and unable to do much of anything right now.
Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I think a simple thank you note would be appropriate. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:A simple thank you note is fine.
Reply:A thoughtful thank you card with some personal notes for them. That is sufficient. I am sure they understand that you appreciated their help during a hardtime. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Reply:I'm really sorry to hear about your mom passing away.
My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site:
"No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say "thanks" for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services."
"Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally."
They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too:
"PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered.
Dear Steve,
Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends."
Hope this helps.
Reply:Just a thank you note is appropriate. Write something like: "Thank you so very much for the care and concern you have shown through our loss. Your assistance during this troubled time was most appreciated."
My condolences on your loss.
Reply:a simple THANK YOU card is more then most people do---so sorry about your mother....
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Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I think a simple thank you note would be appropriate. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:A simple thank you note is fine.
Reply:A thoughtful thank you card with some personal notes for them. That is sufficient. I am sure they understand that you appreciated their help during a hardtime. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Reply:I'm really sorry to hear about your mom passing away.
My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site:
"No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say "thanks" for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services."
"Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally."
They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too:
"PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered.
Dear Steve,
Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends."
Hope this helps.
Reply:Just a thank you note is appropriate. Write something like: "Thank you so very much for the care and concern you have shown through our loss. Your assistance during this troubled time was most appreciated."
My condolences on your loss.
Reply:a simple THANK YOU card is more then most people do---so sorry about your mother....
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