...emotionally difficult to organize their funerals, wakes, flowers, churches, minister and other important things that I have completely overlooked the most important matter. How the hell do I get my hands on my inheritance ASAP? I want the money NOW!
Long story short. I am an only child and last week my mom and dad both died in a car accident. It was so...?
Wow. My dad actually died and I clicked on this to console you. I hope you never try this again because to some people, it's not actually amusing...
Reply:If what you are saying is true, I cannot believe that someone who has lost a Loved one, would be without feelings, in this case the Lose of Parents, if one of my Daughters would say the same thing you said, I would be turning in my Grave, and when I could come to Earth, in Spirt I would make that Daughter of mine, wish she was never Born.
I am not going to say anything anymore, because I don't want The Yahoo, answers team to take away some points.
Reply:What the fu*k is wrong with you!? your freakin parents that just died in a car accident. What are you a 1 year old? You just lost the two most important people in your life and all you care about is freakin money. That's sick and wrong.
You are so unbelieveable if this is true.
~Kylie~=P
Reply:Are you serious? This has to be a joke because if both of my parents or any of my close family members died i would give anything to even hear half a breath from them.
Reply:well talk to a lawyer, and go to the bank, show them the dealth certificate, and see if they left a will, if your old enough to be arranging all of this, you wouldnt be so greedy.
Reply:Wow, talk about heart breakingly touching .
You seriously have problems - ugh ! ;) ?
Reply:you've gotta be kidding me...this has got to be a joke if you are concerned about inheritance in this situation.
Reply:What an ignorant *** you are..... But the answer is see the lawyer... He will take care of all your desires. Grant M in Pennsylvania
Reply:Lmao. . . . They're both gonna come back and take you with them so you won't get $%*#.
Reply:go to a lawyer for advice
Reply:You little.. UGH! YOU HAVE TO BE JOKING!
WHAT KIND OF SPOILED LITTLE ... JACKA**
that is so. wrong.
it is so wrong that I don't even believe it is true.
Reply:Wow!!! Your really a sad case.
Reply:Just ask 'em!
Reply:Some people never grow up..
Reply:sorry for your loss.
umm, i think you get full access to the money when you turn 18.
Reply:i hope they left u nothing if u care that little about their funeral
selfish a**hole
Reply:wow...you def. have some issues you need to sort out FIRST!
Sunday, February 5, 2012
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
I did know we were to cover our heads when we went to my friends funeral, I was one of the few ppl that knew before hand and my husband and I along with our niece went out especially to buy a head scarf for this occasion. I was only asking why we were required to. some of u don't need to be rude about it!!!!
Now I may as well ask one more question......
There were a lot of flowers and cards at the wife's funeral but none for the husband. I was so upset that my husband went to the kiosk and brought a bunch of beautiful white flowers to lay on the grave. Do Muslims lay flowers on graved? I ask because there were hardly any flowers on the other graves and we were in a section reserved especially for Muslims.
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
Friend, I myself was not aware of your other question, I don't know what country you are from, But here in the USA, many Religions has flowers or maybe a donation to that person favorite charity fund. My wife passed away in 1989 %26amp; she had flowers from many people. I know even here in the USA, the Muslum population may not have flowers,
Reply:OK let me try and give you a proper answer since Ive received 9 years of pure Islamic education.
Covering the head for a woman is a sign of modesty in Islam. It is required under all situations and not just funerals.
If people do it for the funeral..this is a cultural thing and not really islamic at all.
as for the flowers and the cards, these are still very much cultural and islam does not say anything about putting or not putting flowers on graves.
this is left upto the person..
the only thing Islam says is not to cry and wail out loud when visiting the graves..as it is a sign of immaturity and is disrespectful to the dead lying there.
Reply:you don't want to know
you want to insult
because you know by asking these kinds of questions some retarded will just insult Islam and that is what you want
not so smart
Reply:You said in your earlier question that your friends died suddenly and unexpectedly.
Funerals are rituals that people use to try to "put to into place" the profoundly disturbing experience of death.
It is very normal for people to want everything to go "right" and smoothly, and for the proper customs and observances to take their natural course. It's a kind of reassurance in the face of a shocking occurrence.
While few deaths are entirely expected, in this case it sounds like many people are struggling particularly hard to make this "right". This is to be expected.
Please give yourself the space to grieve in the ways that make sense to you personally. Don't worry too much about whether the formal ritual was "good enough" or not.
Reply:Don't be upset.
Sometimes muslyms can get really ANGRY.
Take Care.
Reply:if you go with a hijab to the funeral you are showing respect to Muslim traditions not to the late person.
Muslims don't use flowers in their funerals it is just a matter of tradition.
God bless
BTW your questions were very polite and showed that you cared to understand the traditions of Muslims. I am sorry that you had some rude answers as you said but they MAY not be Muslims who were rude
Now I may as well ask one more question......
There were a lot of flowers and cards at the wife's funeral but none for the husband. I was so upset that my husband went to the kiosk and brought a bunch of beautiful white flowers to lay on the grave. Do Muslims lay flowers on graved? I ask because there were hardly any flowers on the other graves and we were in a section reserved especially for Muslims.
In regarding the ppl who answered my first question about Muslim funerals especially habayeb?
Friend, I myself was not aware of your other question, I don't know what country you are from, But here in the USA, many Religions has flowers or maybe a donation to that person favorite charity fund. My wife passed away in 1989 %26amp; she had flowers from many people. I know even here in the USA, the Muslum population may not have flowers,
Reply:OK let me try and give you a proper answer since Ive received 9 years of pure Islamic education.
Covering the head for a woman is a sign of modesty in Islam. It is required under all situations and not just funerals.
If people do it for the funeral..this is a cultural thing and not really islamic at all.
as for the flowers and the cards, these are still very much cultural and islam does not say anything about putting or not putting flowers on graves.
this is left upto the person..
the only thing Islam says is not to cry and wail out loud when visiting the graves..as it is a sign of immaturity and is disrespectful to the dead lying there.
Reply:you don't want to know
you want to insult
because you know by asking these kinds of questions some retarded will just insult Islam and that is what you want
not so smart
Reply:You said in your earlier question that your friends died suddenly and unexpectedly.
Funerals are rituals that people use to try to "put to into place" the profoundly disturbing experience of death.
It is very normal for people to want everything to go "right" and smoothly, and for the proper customs and observances to take their natural course. It's a kind of reassurance in the face of a shocking occurrence.
While few deaths are entirely expected, in this case it sounds like many people are struggling particularly hard to make this "right". This is to be expected.
Please give yourself the space to grieve in the ways that make sense to you personally. Don't worry too much about whether the formal ritual was "good enough" or not.
Reply:Don't be upset.
Sometimes muslyms can get really ANGRY.
Take Care.
Reply:if you go with a hijab to the funeral you are showing respect to Muslim traditions not to the late person.
Muslims don't use flowers in their funerals it is just a matter of tradition.
God bless
BTW your questions were very polite and showed that you cared to understand the traditions of Muslims. I am sorry that you had some rude answers as you said but they MAY not be Muslims who were rude
What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
Do you say anything or avoid it? Do you go to the funeral or viewing? Do you send flowers or a card? How do you handle it?
What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
I lost my dad in 2004, and I am still not over it. There is not much you can say. You can let your love one know that you are their for them, and that if they want to talk your phone line is always open. There is something nice that someone did for me tho, they had an brass dove ornament engraved with my dad's name on it with date of birth and when he passed. I love that ornament because I can put it on my christmas tree, and just remember a few good memories, and it is like having a peice of him with me. Another thing is to pray for them that they are comforted in a way that is best for them. God bless :)
Reply:tell ur friend that he/she will get the best for next round. trust me!
Reply:offer lots of body language and few words.Actions speaks louder than words.Be a shoulder to cry on. Your presence at the funeral will be more support than you can imagine. Try distracting your friend from the grieving situation;possibly by taking them somewhere that doesn't spells death. to many words can cause added grief on this occasion.
Reply:i say if iyou need me for anything please call then after a week chex to see if they r doing ok yes if ur a close friend go to the viewing
Reply:Just let them know you feel for them, and you are there for them. If they request you come, or if you feel you knew their relative well enough, go. If not, you aren't obligated. A card would definetely be good, but flowers are not necessary. When a life long friend of mine lost his grandfather, whom I had been around for my friends life, I went and was there for him.
Reply:sometimes its best to not say anything at all. that happened to me and it made it worse sometimes when people said somethin about it. when they seem happy dont say anything but if they already look sad...it wouldnt hurt to say sorry or give them a hug..it would be good to send flowersl
Reply:The worst thing to do is ignore your friend's loss. People will often avoid the person who has lost a loved one because they don't know what to say, or they feel uncomfortable with that person's pain. What your friend needs most right now is a support system, friends who will just be there. Even if you feel that you can't think of the right things to say, your presence is what matters most.
Reply:you tell them that you are so sorry for there lose and that in time they will heal but it will take time and to give themselves the proper time to greive and that if they ever need anything that all they have to do is call any time of day or night and you will be there for them and that they can count on you for moral, emotional, and physical support.....
that you love them and know that it is hard but they are tuff and they will move on when the time is right and you have faith in there recovery from the lose....
Reply:offer them support don't fawn all over them if tell them if they need someone to talk to that you are there......let them know that you care but don't pressure them to talking about it.....tell them you have a shoulder for them to cry on when they need it.
Reply:I'm sorry about your loved one but it will be OK
Reply:It's always difficult trying to figure out what to say.
When my grandfather died, my friends offered their condolences but never brought it up again unless I wanted to talk about it. Even then, they said that he was in a better place and the suffering was over, and he'd want me to be happy. they didn't buy me gifts but they took me out to the movies, dinner, parties, and did other things to get my mind off it. You should let them know you're there, they'll return the favor because it's a new bond that's been made. You might want to accompany them to the funeral or viewing to show support, many people break down and need a shoulder to lean on. Be that shoulder, as corny as it sounds, but I cried on many that summer.
Reply:Tell them your there if they want to talk
Reply:If its a really good friend you should go to the funeral or atleast the viewing. Alot of people don't like people saying I'm sorry to them it just depends on the person. You'll do what you think is best.
Reply:tell them it will be okay and that it is nature
Reply:well tell them you are so sorry for their lost and everything will be ok do what you just ask all those things are ok but do not avod it because you are not a good friend you are not feeling what they are going throught.
Reply:All those things. A true friend is just "there." Let them do the talking, listen to what they have to say. Let them know that you are a friend because you are there for them.
Reply:Offer to go the funeral/wake with them. Even if you didnt know the person, your friend may need your support. Theres really nothing you can say, try to avoid cliches like "he/she is in a better place now" etc. Just tell your friend that youre sorry and be there for him/her as much as possible.
Reply:just be there for your friend. that would be better then flowers, listen to your friend when she needs to talk, you can tell your friend you are sorry and if your friend needs anything, let you know. thats what i did when i went through it, with my best freind, and i think that help her out alot till i lost her in a motorcycle a few years later.
Reply:Let them know you are there to support them. Go to the funeral if you are a close friend or family member. Think about what you would want if you lost someone you loved, would you want friends supporting you or would you want to be ignored?
Reply:I don't think they expect you to say anything. Just be there for them. Tell them that you are there for emotional support and if they want to talk. I'd go to the viewing and/or funeral if they wanted me there. I'd send flowers.
Reply:just be there. sit next to them. say nothing. they know. and when they feel like saying something, you'll be right there.
Reply:You go to everything you can, and just be there for them. Sometimes just being there, offering a hug, and listening is all that is necessary.
Reply:tell he/she that sometimes other people will make mistakes/// and that u could find some one else in the futur that is goni to be the one that u dreamed of(lol) hope u have luck finding the one
Reply:i lost my best friend in march. i lost my uncle (who helped raise me) in january. so i can definitely relate to this question. after my best friend died people kept coming up and telling me how sorry they were. sometimes people don't like that, but i did. it helps to know that people recognize how close i was to her. ya know? so that's my opinion. :)
Reply:it may seem lame but you say im sorry you have to feel so bad and ask if their is anything you can do to help
Reply:Try to stay postive and motivated
Reply:just b there as much as u can and try to understand all of his or her problems and show them that your always there when they need someone to talk to no matter what the situation may be.
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What do you say to a friend when they lose a loved one?
I lost my dad in 2004, and I am still not over it. There is not much you can say. You can let your love one know that you are their for them, and that if they want to talk your phone line is always open. There is something nice that someone did for me tho, they had an brass dove ornament engraved with my dad's name on it with date of birth and when he passed. I love that ornament because I can put it on my christmas tree, and just remember a few good memories, and it is like having a peice of him with me. Another thing is to pray for them that they are comforted in a way that is best for them. God bless :)
Reply:tell ur friend that he/she will get the best for next round. trust me!
Reply:offer lots of body language and few words.Actions speaks louder than words.Be a shoulder to cry on. Your presence at the funeral will be more support than you can imagine. Try distracting your friend from the grieving situation;possibly by taking them somewhere that doesn't spells death. to many words can cause added grief on this occasion.
Reply:i say if iyou need me for anything please call then after a week chex to see if they r doing ok yes if ur a close friend go to the viewing
Reply:Just let them know you feel for them, and you are there for them. If they request you come, or if you feel you knew their relative well enough, go. If not, you aren't obligated. A card would definetely be good, but flowers are not necessary. When a life long friend of mine lost his grandfather, whom I had been around for my friends life, I went and was there for him.
Reply:sometimes its best to not say anything at all. that happened to me and it made it worse sometimes when people said somethin about it. when they seem happy dont say anything but if they already look sad...it wouldnt hurt to say sorry or give them a hug..it would be good to send flowersl
Reply:The worst thing to do is ignore your friend's loss. People will often avoid the person who has lost a loved one because they don't know what to say, or they feel uncomfortable with that person's pain. What your friend needs most right now is a support system, friends who will just be there. Even if you feel that you can't think of the right things to say, your presence is what matters most.
Reply:you tell them that you are so sorry for there lose and that in time they will heal but it will take time and to give themselves the proper time to greive and that if they ever need anything that all they have to do is call any time of day or night and you will be there for them and that they can count on you for moral, emotional, and physical support.....
that you love them and know that it is hard but they are tuff and they will move on when the time is right and you have faith in there recovery from the lose....
Reply:offer them support don't fawn all over them if tell them if they need someone to talk to that you are there......let them know that you care but don't pressure them to talking about it.....tell them you have a shoulder for them to cry on when they need it.
Reply:I'm sorry about your loved one but it will be OK
Reply:It's always difficult trying to figure out what to say.
When my grandfather died, my friends offered their condolences but never brought it up again unless I wanted to talk about it. Even then, they said that he was in a better place and the suffering was over, and he'd want me to be happy. they didn't buy me gifts but they took me out to the movies, dinner, parties, and did other things to get my mind off it. You should let them know you're there, they'll return the favor because it's a new bond that's been made. You might want to accompany them to the funeral or viewing to show support, many people break down and need a shoulder to lean on. Be that shoulder, as corny as it sounds, but I cried on many that summer.
Reply:Tell them your there if they want to talk
Reply:If its a really good friend you should go to the funeral or atleast the viewing. Alot of people don't like people saying I'm sorry to them it just depends on the person. You'll do what you think is best.
Reply:tell them it will be okay and that it is nature
Reply:well tell them you are so sorry for their lost and everything will be ok do what you just ask all those things are ok but do not avod it because you are not a good friend you are not feeling what they are going throught.
Reply:All those things. A true friend is just "there." Let them do the talking, listen to what they have to say. Let them know that you are a friend because you are there for them.
Reply:Offer to go the funeral/wake with them. Even if you didnt know the person, your friend may need your support. Theres really nothing you can say, try to avoid cliches like "he/she is in a better place now" etc. Just tell your friend that youre sorry and be there for him/her as much as possible.
Reply:just be there for your friend. that would be better then flowers, listen to your friend when she needs to talk, you can tell your friend you are sorry and if your friend needs anything, let you know. thats what i did when i went through it, with my best freind, and i think that help her out alot till i lost her in a motorcycle a few years later.
Reply:Let them know you are there to support them. Go to the funeral if you are a close friend or family member. Think about what you would want if you lost someone you loved, would you want friends supporting you or would you want to be ignored?
Reply:I don't think they expect you to say anything. Just be there for them. Tell them that you are there for emotional support and if they want to talk. I'd go to the viewing and/or funeral if they wanted me there. I'd send flowers.
Reply:just be there. sit next to them. say nothing. they know. and when they feel like saying something, you'll be right there.
Reply:You go to everything you can, and just be there for them. Sometimes just being there, offering a hug, and listening is all that is necessary.
Reply:tell he/she that sometimes other people will make mistakes/// and that u could find some one else in the futur that is goni to be the one that u dreamed of(lol) hope u have luck finding the one
Reply:i lost my best friend in march. i lost my uncle (who helped raise me) in january. so i can definitely relate to this question. after my best friend died people kept coming up and telling me how sorry they were. sometimes people don't like that, but i did. it helps to know that people recognize how close i was to her. ya know? so that's my opinion. :)
Reply:it may seem lame but you say im sorry you have to feel so bad and ask if their is anything you can do to help
Reply:Try to stay postive and motivated
Reply:just b there as much as u can and try to understand all of his or her problems and show them that your always there when they need someone to talk to no matter what the situation may be.
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Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I've been to plenty of funerals lately and I've come up with an idea...I'd like to purchase a cart (much like a hot dog cart) and offer items such as flowers, potted plants, american flags, sympathy cards, water and other funeral related items to mourners to purchase as they grieve. They can then take these items and leave them at the final resting places! Because it will be a cart, I could wheel it all around the cemetary to the different funerals. I believe there is a HUGE market demographic with this venture...
Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I hate to rain on your parade but I don't think that there is any market for your services. Furthermore, most cemeteries are private property and you'd have a rough time getting permission to operate such a cart. Think of it this way: If such a market existed wouldn't the private cemetery ALREADY have a little kiosk selling these items on the way in? Finally, there is the crassness factor. How are you going to do this? Drive your little cart up to the just stopped parade of funeral cars with bells dinging and a Requiem Mass blaring over the loud speaker?
Most people going to funerals wish they were somewhere else and stopping to buy a trinket for the recently departed will not add to their pleasure.
Your idea is creative but at the same time it will be a loser.
Will a cemetary 'cart' be a lucrative business venture?
I hate to rain on your parade but I don't think that there is any market for your services. Furthermore, most cemeteries are private property and you'd have a rough time getting permission to operate such a cart. Think of it this way: If such a market existed wouldn't the private cemetery ALREADY have a little kiosk selling these items on the way in? Finally, there is the crassness factor. How are you going to do this? Drive your little cart up to the just stopped parade of funeral cars with bells dinging and a Requiem Mass blaring over the loud speaker?
Most people going to funerals wish they were somewhere else and stopping to buy a trinket for the recently departed will not add to their pleasure.
Your idea is creative but at the same time it will be a loser.
Friday, February 3, 2012
When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
The victims names are Lakeisha Boss, Whitney Flowers, Donovan Richardson, Reginald Walker and Anthony Scales
When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
try this site it's help you a lot of information
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24314457/
Reply:Chatham? What state? What country for that matter?
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When are the funerals for the 5 people killed in Chatham last week?
try this site it's help you a lot of information
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24314457/
Reply:Chatham? What state? What country for that matter?
Flower arrangement?
I am trying to sort some flowers for my grandads funeral we really want bicycle shaped flowers as he loved his bike so much ive searched the net and just cant find any can anyone help?
Flower arrangement?
You would have to get a silk florist to create this. I am sure it would take time %26amp; be very costly.
Reply:try ebay
Reply:What about having columbines. They look like wheels. You could also have a florist take a green oasis funeral block and make a bike out of different flowers. It would hang on a stand. It would be very cool. I did one that was a square and the flowers were shaped like the country Italy.
Reply:Call your local florist and ask them, It is not likely that you will find something like that ready made. I have seen flower arrangements in many diffrent forms/shapes/objects.
Give them a call and they should be able to arrange that for you.
Flower arrangement?
You would have to get a silk florist to create this. I am sure it would take time %26amp; be very costly.
Reply:try ebay
Reply:What about having columbines. They look like wheels. You could also have a florist take a green oasis funeral block and make a bike out of different flowers. It would hang on a stand. It would be very cool. I did one that was a square and the flowers were shaped like the country Italy.
Reply:Call your local florist and ask them, It is not likely that you will find something like that ready made. I have seen flower arrangements in many diffrent forms/shapes/objects.
Give them a call and they should be able to arrange that for you.
Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I'm working on thank you notes to people who sent flowers to my mother's funeral and was wondering what I should do for the pallbearers. This is my first time doing this, so I'm completely confused. I don't know the pallbearers very well because they were cousins of my mother and I have only met them a couple times. Do I send a card? A gift? What do I say in the note? I would have my dad do it, but he's a wreck and unable to do much of anything right now.
Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I think a simple thank you note would be appropriate. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:A simple thank you note is fine.
Reply:A thoughtful thank you card with some personal notes for them. That is sufficient. I am sure they understand that you appreciated their help during a hardtime. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Reply:I'm really sorry to hear about your mom passing away.
My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site:
"No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say "thanks" for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services."
"Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally."
They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too:
"PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered.
Dear Steve,
Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends."
Hope this helps.
Reply:Just a thank you note is appropriate. Write something like: "Thank you so very much for the care and concern you have shown through our loss. Your assistance during this troubled time was most appreciated."
My condolences on your loss.
Reply:a simple THANK YOU card is more then most people do---so sorry about your mother....
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Proper ettiquette for thanking pallbearers?
I think a simple thank you note would be appropriate. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:A simple thank you note is fine.
Reply:A thoughtful thank you card with some personal notes for them. That is sufficient. I am sure they understand that you appreciated their help during a hardtime. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Reply:I'm really sorry to hear about your mom passing away.
My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site:
"No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say "thanks" for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services."
"Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally."
They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too:
"PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered.
Dear Steve,
Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends."
Hope this helps.
Reply:Just a thank you note is appropriate. Write something like: "Thank you so very much for the care and concern you have shown through our loss. Your assistance during this troubled time was most appreciated."
My condolences on your loss.
Reply:a simple THANK YOU card is more then most people do---so sorry about your mother....
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Sending something because of a death, can anyone help me please?
My husbands father just passed away, his wife is a very nice lady who will be bombarded with flowers, I was wondering would it be innapropriate to send a gift/food basket instead of flowers, that was filled with morning breakfast/coffee items, instead of traditional fruit....I'm thinking, she doesn't need more flowers that are going to have to be thrown away in a while, it is winter where she is so a plant isn't practical, and traditional funeral type plants/flowers she will get so many, what does anyone think on this, greatly appreciated.....
Sending something because of a death, can anyone help me please?
That sounds like a thoughtful alternative.
When my dad died, we received so many flowers, cards, and fruit baskets (oh my, the fruit flies were horrible!).
My mom was a widow with three minor kids, and she appreciated the people that volunteered to watch us while she made arrangements, or the meals that were prepared so she didn't have to worry about it, and the ladies from church who came over and cleaned our house up a bit. If geographical restrictions aren't an issue and she is your mother-in-law, maybe you could send a fruit basket or gift basket, but also volunteer your time or talents. Just a thought...
Reply:You're welcome!
Whatever you decide to give, I'm sure the thought itself will be appreciated. I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving, and my condolences on the loss your family suffers. Report It
Reply:My mother who just lost her husband wants to send alot of people something like a gift because of his death. This is very unusual I think because I told her that generally people give presents to the family or loved one of the deceased and not the other way around but she told me "Shows you how much you know!"
Reply:A thoughtful gift is always appreciated, and I think that your idea is a great one. Maybe try to include one of her favorites if you know her well enough.
If you're going to do this online, I've had great luck with delightfuldeliveries.com. I don't work for them, just.. they've always sent things in a timely fashion.
Good luck, and I'm sorry for your loss. Hope this helps.
Reply:I think that it's always the thought that counts. I think it's very sweet of you to be thinking of your mother in law that way. Just a thought, I'd make sure that the basket doesn't contain perishables, because when my father in law passed, my mother in law got TONS of food brought in by the church ladies. My hubby and his siblings even joked that it seemed like these ladies just sit around, waiting for people to die (or go to hospital) so that they can bring in casseroles, coffee cakes, jello salads, etc. :-) They wound up donating all the flowers to a nursing home in the area after the funeral, which is something you might want to suggest to your mother in law. Also, many families will also request that donations be made in memory of the deceased to a charity. My deepest sympathy is with your family at this time. God bless!
Reply:It depends on religions and upbrining. It sounds very nice to do. A fruit basket also is acceptable.
Reply:this might help
How to Create a Gift Basket for Someone Who Is Mourning
http://www.ehow.com/how_6797_create-gift...
and Sympathy Gift Baskets
http://www.gourmetgiftbaskets.com/Sympat...
Reply:The basket sounds like a nice idea. Flowers are nice but they will only last a few days.
Im sure she'll appreciate whatever you decide to send her, just knowing that you are thinking of her at this time.
Reply:Yes, send the gift/food basket. You're right, the flowers will be thrown out. At least this way, when she doesn't want to cook, she will have some easy treats and coffee. I think she has a very nice daughter-in-law to send such a thoughtful gift. I am so sorry for your family's loss.
Reply:I think that would be very thoughtful of you.I would definitely give her the coffee basket that's a great idea .
Reply:i would suggest a nice bottle of wine/champange. When my grandmother passed away we recieved a few gift baskets, it didnt offend us in anyway so i believe it is an appropritae gift
Reply:For me, it is inappropriate too to give flowers to show our respect or what so ever...why not give a card with beautiful words that can help the family to overcome the grief. Or perhaps prayer to God are much better than rotten flowers.
Reply:Yes, as long as she likes coffee, send it. Kudos to you.
Reply:Whatever you send will be appropriate. I was in the same situation a while back, and even though I shared in the purchase of a family flower basket, I wanted to give something that would last longer and be from just me. I had a terrarium of small house plants arranged which didn't require much care. A fruit basket is nice and the basket could be used for other things.
Reply:Yes, anything that is not a "present" type gift.
Reply:I think it is a very thoughtful gift idea, if she drinks coffee and tea and enjoys fruit. This will probably be comforting to her on those sleepless evening when she is unable to rest thinking about him and missing him. She can have some herbal tea to relax. God bless****
Reply:If she likes coffee it might very well be appropriate. Be careful not to make it appear too festive, given the occasion.
You might also throw in some oranges and other appropriate fruits just for balance and be sure to enclose a nice card.
Definitely ask your husband what he thinks before you decide. Appropriateness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
You have several beholders who could be happy or upset depending on how they see things.
Sending something because of a death, can anyone help me please?
That sounds like a thoughtful alternative.
When my dad died, we received so many flowers, cards, and fruit baskets (oh my, the fruit flies were horrible!).
My mom was a widow with three minor kids, and she appreciated the people that volunteered to watch us while she made arrangements, or the meals that were prepared so she didn't have to worry about it, and the ladies from church who came over and cleaned our house up a bit. If geographical restrictions aren't an issue and she is your mother-in-law, maybe you could send a fruit basket or gift basket, but also volunteer your time or talents. Just a thought...
Reply:You're welcome!
Whatever you decide to give, I'm sure the thought itself will be appreciated. I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving, and my condolences on the loss your family suffers. Report It
Reply:My mother who just lost her husband wants to send alot of people something like a gift because of his death. This is very unusual I think because I told her that generally people give presents to the family or loved one of the deceased and not the other way around but she told me "Shows you how much you know!"
Reply:A thoughtful gift is always appreciated, and I think that your idea is a great one. Maybe try to include one of her favorites if you know her well enough.
If you're going to do this online, I've had great luck with delightfuldeliveries.com. I don't work for them, just.. they've always sent things in a timely fashion.
Good luck, and I'm sorry for your loss. Hope this helps.
Reply:I think that it's always the thought that counts. I think it's very sweet of you to be thinking of your mother in law that way. Just a thought, I'd make sure that the basket doesn't contain perishables, because when my father in law passed, my mother in law got TONS of food brought in by the church ladies. My hubby and his siblings even joked that it seemed like these ladies just sit around, waiting for people to die (or go to hospital) so that they can bring in casseroles, coffee cakes, jello salads, etc. :-) They wound up donating all the flowers to a nursing home in the area after the funeral, which is something you might want to suggest to your mother in law. Also, many families will also request that donations be made in memory of the deceased to a charity. My deepest sympathy is with your family at this time. God bless!
Reply:It depends on religions and upbrining. It sounds very nice to do. A fruit basket also is acceptable.
Reply:this might help
How to Create a Gift Basket for Someone Who Is Mourning
http://www.ehow.com/how_6797_create-gift...
and Sympathy Gift Baskets
http://www.gourmetgiftbaskets.com/Sympat...
Reply:The basket sounds like a nice idea. Flowers are nice but they will only last a few days.
Im sure she'll appreciate whatever you decide to send her, just knowing that you are thinking of her at this time.
Reply:Yes, send the gift/food basket. You're right, the flowers will be thrown out. At least this way, when she doesn't want to cook, she will have some easy treats and coffee. I think she has a very nice daughter-in-law to send such a thoughtful gift. I am so sorry for your family's loss.
Reply:I think that would be very thoughtful of you.I would definitely give her the coffee basket that's a great idea .
Reply:i would suggest a nice bottle of wine/champange. When my grandmother passed away we recieved a few gift baskets, it didnt offend us in anyway so i believe it is an appropritae gift
Reply:For me, it is inappropriate too to give flowers to show our respect or what so ever...why not give a card with beautiful words that can help the family to overcome the grief. Or perhaps prayer to God are much better than rotten flowers.
Reply:Yes, as long as she likes coffee, send it. Kudos to you.
Reply:Whatever you send will be appropriate. I was in the same situation a while back, and even though I shared in the purchase of a family flower basket, I wanted to give something that would last longer and be from just me. I had a terrarium of small house plants arranged which didn't require much care. A fruit basket is nice and the basket could be used for other things.
Reply:Yes, anything that is not a "present" type gift.
Reply:I think it is a very thoughtful gift idea, if she drinks coffee and tea and enjoys fruit. This will probably be comforting to her on those sleepless evening when she is unable to rest thinking about him and missing him. She can have some herbal tea to relax. God bless****
Reply:If she likes coffee it might very well be appropriate. Be careful not to make it appear too festive, given the occasion.
You might also throw in some oranges and other appropriate fruits just for balance and be sure to enclose a nice card.
Definitely ask your husband what he thinks before you decide. Appropriateness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
You have several beholders who could be happy or upset depending on how they see things.
Pre-Planning a Funeral?
A friend was telling me about a casual "form" she once had where you can fill out specific requests in the event of your death, and your family will have your wishes on particular things. It was things like favorite color, favorite flower, particular songs, buried with or without jewelry, etc...has anyone heard of this, and if so, can you give me the website or link?
Pre-Planning a Funeral?
All funeral homes give out those workbooks for free. It's called an advanced planning guidebook.
If you choose to buy an insurance policy in the amount of what you are planning, it will lock-in all your costs forever and give you additional discounts.
It's the best thing to do for your family.
Reply:http://www.ehow.com/how_2032487_plan-you...
Pre-Planning a Funeral?
All funeral homes give out those workbooks for free. It's called an advanced planning guidebook.
If you choose to buy an insurance policy in the amount of what you are planning, it will lock-in all your costs forever and give you additional discounts.
It's the best thing to do for your family.
Reply:http://www.ehow.com/how_2032487_plan-you...
Is it okay to wear black to a wedding? or white shoes after Labor Day?
I know black is "for" funerals... and I bought this super cute Springy white halter dress with pink and green flowers, but I cannot find the right shade of pink or green shoes to match and that stresses me out! I know I'm not supposed to wear white shoes after Labor Day, true or just a myth? so then I fell back on this adorable short strapless black dress I have to accessorize with red shoes, red bracelets, etc... is that off limits as well?! Thanks
Is it okay to wear black to a wedding? or white shoes after Labor Day?
Hello Green Eyes.
Nothing wrong wearing black at a wedding. I think you'll look fabulous. :)
Reply:Some people are superstitious about anyone wearing black to a wedding....Like you wouldn't wear white and outshine the bride. It is her day. . The first outfit you picked sounds perfect. Wear whatever shoes you want to.
Reply:that "after labor day" stuff is stupid as hell.
who cares what time of the year it is?
wear what looks good.
Reply:Yeah, you can wear black to a wedding in the fall/winter. That's fine... I wouldn't go with the white shoes after labor day if you live in a northern state though. If you're in Florida, yeah go for it! Michigan? Definitely not!
I'm not sure if I would go with red accessories though. Red %26amp;
If you have a DSW in your area, go there and look for shoes! They've got a great selection and every color imaginable! Plus the prices aren't bad either!
Reply:Forget those stupid fashion rules, were what u wanna wear. Be U.
Reply:What not to wear says it best
wearing white shoes after labor day:
http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/whatno...
And for the black. I think that so long as it is not all black it is fine. And at least you are not wearing all white because that is bad....
Reply:NEVER wear black to a wedding!!!!! To me that is just disrespectful. White shoes after labor day I dont see any harm in so go for that if you would like, I dont see what the big deal that people make of that anyways.
Reply:I guess it's fine. . . . .until you meet Kathleen Turner around the corner. Yikes.
Reply:Black is perfectly acceptable at weddings now (especially evening weddings). White is the only color you should avoid. And I'm pretty sure that all the fashion mags say that white after Labor Day is okay now. At least last time I checked.
Reply:I dont like to see strapless dresses in church. How about adding a cute jacket or an elegant wrap? If money is an issue, go to the fabric store and by a yard of lace. Color of your choice.
Reply:meh just a myth whats gunna happen i suppose if u believe in bad luck and crap like that. Yes u can wear black to a wedding as long as ur not compleatly dressed in black....
Reply:it's just fine, if you like it. nobody will say anything against your taste in fashion, believe me.
Reply:Depends on the wedding...if it's an evening wedding in the fall or winter, black is appropriate. If it's happening outside or in the spring or summer, black may be uncomfortable, but not necessarily off limits. And don't worry about the white shoes after labor day...that's just lame and if you feel good wearing it then do so! Have fun!
Reply:Trust me .. you can wear anything you want, guys will never notice if you look cute in it, and if the girls are telling you something, it because of jelousy!
Reply:black for a wedding is the new thing, but white shoes after labor day i would not do it.
Reply:That was just a myth from years ago....Many people now days Go more casual. and alot are adding black to weddings... And it is perfectly safe and logic to wear white after labor day :)
So stop stressing :) and go get the outfit you wanted!!!! :)
Reply:The white after labor day is not a myth it was a style of the past and very rarely is adhered to today. and white shoes should be okay.
I say wear what you FEEL good in so you shine!
The black dress sound great and I would wear that if you feel that your going to look great- I would say since it's fall Black will be fine.
Be yourself
Reply:yes it is i mean its just a color right and if it looks good than why not also u see top models wearing white after labor day so why cant you black at a wedding hell yea the only person that is wearing white is the bride and the groom and the groomsman wears black
Reply:I think that rule is for little old church ladies only. lol! I mean look at all the incrediablly cute white boots and white ski clothes. Wear the white shoes...if you do buy pink of green shoes you will probually only wear them one time. You will get more use out of the white ones!
The last few night weddings I have went to allot of people were wearing black. YOung and old alike. I am in the wedding industry and having the bridesmaids in black is also increasingly popular!
Reply:bayeebee..don't b supersticious.u can even wear a torn dress on a wedding day.it doesn't matter.just wear white if u want to.nd u will**** urself if u r afraid to wear white shoes after a labor day.nd just try to match withthe accesories u have
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Is it okay to wear black to a wedding? or white shoes after Labor Day?
Hello Green Eyes.
Nothing wrong wearing black at a wedding. I think you'll look fabulous. :)
Reply:Some people are superstitious about anyone wearing black to a wedding....Like you wouldn't wear white and outshine the bride. It is her day. . The first outfit you picked sounds perfect. Wear whatever shoes you want to.
Reply:that "after labor day" stuff is stupid as hell.
who cares what time of the year it is?
wear what looks good.
Reply:Yeah, you can wear black to a wedding in the fall/winter. That's fine... I wouldn't go with the white shoes after labor day if you live in a northern state though. If you're in Florida, yeah go for it! Michigan? Definitely not!
I'm not sure if I would go with red accessories though. Red %26amp;
If you have a DSW in your area, go there and look for shoes! They've got a great selection and every color imaginable! Plus the prices aren't bad either!
Reply:Forget those stupid fashion rules, were what u wanna wear. Be U.
Reply:What not to wear says it best
wearing white shoes after labor day:
http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/whatno...
And for the black. I think that so long as it is not all black it is fine. And at least you are not wearing all white because that is bad....
Reply:NEVER wear black to a wedding!!!!! To me that is just disrespectful. White shoes after labor day I dont see any harm in so go for that if you would like, I dont see what the big deal that people make of that anyways.
Reply:I guess it's fine. . . . .until you meet Kathleen Turner around the corner. Yikes.
Reply:Black is perfectly acceptable at weddings now (especially evening weddings). White is the only color you should avoid. And I'm pretty sure that all the fashion mags say that white after Labor Day is okay now. At least last time I checked.
Reply:I dont like to see strapless dresses in church. How about adding a cute jacket or an elegant wrap? If money is an issue, go to the fabric store and by a yard of lace. Color of your choice.
Reply:meh just a myth whats gunna happen i suppose if u believe in bad luck and crap like that. Yes u can wear black to a wedding as long as ur not compleatly dressed in black....
Reply:it's just fine, if you like it. nobody will say anything against your taste in fashion, believe me.
Reply:Depends on the wedding...if it's an evening wedding in the fall or winter, black is appropriate. If it's happening outside or in the spring or summer, black may be uncomfortable, but not necessarily off limits. And don't worry about the white shoes after labor day...that's just lame and if you feel good wearing it then do so! Have fun!
Reply:Trust me .. you can wear anything you want, guys will never notice if you look cute in it, and if the girls are telling you something, it because of jelousy!
Reply:black for a wedding is the new thing, but white shoes after labor day i would not do it.
Reply:That was just a myth from years ago....Many people now days Go more casual. and alot are adding black to weddings... And it is perfectly safe and logic to wear white after labor day :)
So stop stressing :) and go get the outfit you wanted!!!! :)
Reply:The white after labor day is not a myth it was a style of the past and very rarely is adhered to today. and white shoes should be okay.
I say wear what you FEEL good in so you shine!
The black dress sound great and I would wear that if you feel that your going to look great- I would say since it's fall Black will be fine.
Be yourself
Reply:yes it is i mean its just a color right and if it looks good than why not also u see top models wearing white after labor day so why cant you black at a wedding hell yea the only person that is wearing white is the bride and the groom and the groomsman wears black
Reply:I think that rule is for little old church ladies only. lol! I mean look at all the incrediablly cute white boots and white ski clothes. Wear the white shoes...if you do buy pink of green shoes you will probually only wear them one time. You will get more use out of the white ones!
The last few night weddings I have went to allot of people were wearing black. YOung and old alike. I am in the wedding industry and having the bridesmaids in black is also increasingly popular!
Reply:bayeebee..don't b supersticious.u can even wear a torn dress on a wedding day.it doesn't matter.just wear white if u want to.nd u will**** urself if u r afraid to wear white shoes after a labor day.nd just try to match withthe accesories u have
Why do we bother with funerals?
I love flowers, can't smell them or arrange them when I'm dead. Neighbours had a drop in day, some brought drink or food, everyone could say their condonlances, and the deceased's remains were privatly scattered, much cheaper than a funeral. Anyone can lead prayers, you don't need to pay a minister. People who pre pay for funerals, could've spent the money on a decent holiday and probably lived longer. Spend money and love on people when they are alive, don't wait until they are dead!
Why do we bother with funerals?
Some view funerals as a way to celebrate the life of that person or to pay what they feel are 'last respects'.
It is very expensive, you are right. When my dad died when I was 16 we could barely afford ANYTHING. My uncle promised to pay, but then fell of the face of the earth leaving my mom and I with a enormous bill for basically nothing.
Reply:Funerals, in a way, are more to comfort the people who are living and attending the funeral. It provides a sense of closure and helps them move on. What your neighbors did can be considered a funeral too, just without some of the things that other funerals have, and that is perfectly fine. Some people want to spend a lot on a funeral because they just want to honor the deceased a certain way.
Reply:true but dead people need a send off and a way for the others to say goodbye............
Reply:I think funerals give people a chance to pay respect to their loved ones.
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Why do we bother with funerals?
Some view funerals as a way to celebrate the life of that person or to pay what they feel are 'last respects'.
It is very expensive, you are right. When my dad died when I was 16 we could barely afford ANYTHING. My uncle promised to pay, but then fell of the face of the earth leaving my mom and I with a enormous bill for basically nothing.
Reply:Funerals, in a way, are more to comfort the people who are living and attending the funeral. It provides a sense of closure and helps them move on. What your neighbors did can be considered a funeral too, just without some of the things that other funerals have, and that is perfectly fine. Some people want to spend a lot on a funeral because they just want to honor the deceased a certain way.
Reply:true but dead people need a send off and a way for the others to say goodbye............
Reply:I think funerals give people a chance to pay respect to their loved ones.
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I need help from someone who knows anything about Buddhist tradition.?
I have a dylema. One of my co-workers her father past a way and we as a co-workers want to send flowers with our condolences. Should we sed flowers to the Tample or to her home or maybe that is inapropriate to send flowers.
Secound Question is should we go for the funeral too? ( meaning 2 of our managers). What is apropriate to do since she provide us an address to the Tample.
I need help from someone who knows anything about Buddhist tradition.?
If you send flowers to the temple, offer the flowers to the Buddha, and redirect the merit to your colleague's father.
If you send flowers to her home, you may do it as per local custom.
Yes, you should be welcomed to attend the funeral in the temple.
If your colleague practices the Mahayana Pure Land teachings, wishes such as "May your father rebirth in Amitabha's Pure Land" are most appreciated.
Reply:i live in thailand, and thailand is a 85% bhuddist country, so..
okay, i think you should send flowers to the temple. or you could send flowers to her home too. i think that would be appropriate. since she provided you an address to the temple, you could wear black OR white to go there. i think when she gave you the address she means that she wants you to go or she is inviting you to. to be sure, you should ask her, in case she gets offended or something.
Reply:Just Try Why not!
Reply:you should ask your co-worker as to what is the right way to express your condolences to be sure you are not offending them
Secound Question is should we go for the funeral too? ( meaning 2 of our managers). What is apropriate to do since she provide us an address to the Tample.
I need help from someone who knows anything about Buddhist tradition.?
If you send flowers to the temple, offer the flowers to the Buddha, and redirect the merit to your colleague's father.
If you send flowers to her home, you may do it as per local custom.
Yes, you should be welcomed to attend the funeral in the temple.
If your colleague practices the Mahayana Pure Land teachings, wishes such as "May your father rebirth in Amitabha's Pure Land" are most appreciated.
Reply:i live in thailand, and thailand is a 85% bhuddist country, so..
okay, i think you should send flowers to the temple. or you could send flowers to her home too. i think that would be appropriate. since she provided you an address to the temple, you could wear black OR white to go there. i think when she gave you the address she means that she wants you to go or she is inviting you to. to be sure, you should ask her, in case she gets offended or something.
Reply:Just Try Why not!
Reply:you should ask your co-worker as to what is the right way to express your condolences to be sure you are not offending them
I'm looking for a guardian angel pin (jewelry).?
To be specific, one of my relatives has a guardian angel pin that has embedded in it a flower from the funeral of a cherished relative. No one remembers where it came from. Can anyone help me find this?
I'm looking for a guardian angel pin (jewelry).?
I know some of them come from organizations that help poor children in 3rd world countries or Catholic churches or something.. and you usually get them in the mail. I don't know how you get signed up for it but one of my aunties used to get them.
..well i just googled "guardian angel pins" and this one site came up http://churchsupplier.com/shopsite_sc/st...
I'm looking for a guardian angel pin (jewelry).?
I know some of them come from organizations that help poor children in 3rd world countries or Catholic churches or something.. and you usually get them in the mail. I don't know how you get signed up for it but one of my aunties used to get them.
..well i just googled "guardian angel pins" and this one site came up http://churchsupplier.com/shopsite_sc/st...
One of my dearest friends sisters husband passed away this week?
and it was such a terrible blow to the family. He had a massive heart attack, totally unexpected and the wife and kids are totally destroyed. I attended the funeral, sent flowers, but feel the need to do more. They are such wonderful people. Any suggestions? I know they need down time to grieve without the interference of outsiders right now. But, down the road, what could I offer this family to help them adjust to their life without their husband/Dad?
One of my dearest friends sisters husband passed away this week?
My suggestion would be don't go away. People believe grieving people need to be left alone, and I think exactly the opposite. Be present. The children will need someone to play with, and take them places like the park to get out and stay focused on life outside the death of their father. The mother will grieve unimaginably, and having someone around to just take some pressure off will help her feel free to do that. You don't want them to grieve themselves into depression and other issues, so being present and keeping an eye out always helps. I'm sorry to hear of the loss, keep their chins up some.
Reply:first you doing all you can, an just being a friend is the best, i let them know i be their if the need me, ,an latter on tell them he not gone , he live with them in the heart,,an in her kids, to all way rember him, an that realy all you can dp
Reply:It is hard to loose someone you love so un expectiveily. just let her know that you are there for her when ever they need you. If you want maybe sometimes you can bring or cook for them . just to make sure they are eating right. my condolences to the family.
Reply:The first thing you can do is be therre for them. They need people to talk to. You may think they need alone time but that's not always true.
When my husband had a massive heart attack and died people where there for me right away. But after the funeral they seemed to drift way saying they didn't know what to say to me. But all I needed were my friends to talk to and get my feelings out. The worse thing was they told me they understood what I was going through. Believe me unless you lost your spouse you don't know what it is like. To this day some of my friends and in-laws hardly ever talk to me and it's going to be 5 years.
So be there for your friends sister in any way that she needs you because it is a very difficult time for all. Hopefully she won't lose the friends she had. That everyone is compasionate and understanding. I'm so sorry for her loss.
Reply:hats off to u!!!
try ur best to help them!!!
Reply:just be there for them and help out whenever possible.
Reply:Tell them that he is in a better place, watching over you with a smile on his face. He is now their guardian angel, making sure nothing bad will ever happen to them, and he is patiently waiting for all of them up in Heaven so they can be a family once more
Reply:I would try to get friends and family to visit them alot and spend as much time with them as possible they just lost the person that made them feel secure so they need to find that feeling of being secure and by being their and visiting them often will let them know people care and they have some one their for them! also dont show feelings of sadness around them cuz thatll just mak them feel worse try to keep a happy attitude around them
Reply:The best thing you could do now is NOT go over there. The family's still working though the changes this tragedy has brought onto them.
Just call and talk to your friend. Ask them if they need anything and you're there if they do. After about a week, call and ask to come over. Judging by what you said, I'm sure they'll be ready to see you.
I wish your friend luck through this time....at least she's lucky that you're her friend....;-)
One of my dearest friends sisters husband passed away this week?
My suggestion would be don't go away. People believe grieving people need to be left alone, and I think exactly the opposite. Be present. The children will need someone to play with, and take them places like the park to get out and stay focused on life outside the death of their father. The mother will grieve unimaginably, and having someone around to just take some pressure off will help her feel free to do that. You don't want them to grieve themselves into depression and other issues, so being present and keeping an eye out always helps. I'm sorry to hear of the loss, keep their chins up some.
Reply:first you doing all you can, an just being a friend is the best, i let them know i be their if the need me, ,an latter on tell them he not gone , he live with them in the heart,,an in her kids, to all way rember him, an that realy all you can dp
Reply:It is hard to loose someone you love so un expectiveily. just let her know that you are there for her when ever they need you. If you want maybe sometimes you can bring or cook for them . just to make sure they are eating right. my condolences to the family.
Reply:The first thing you can do is be therre for them. They need people to talk to. You may think they need alone time but that's not always true.
When my husband had a massive heart attack and died people where there for me right away. But after the funeral they seemed to drift way saying they didn't know what to say to me. But all I needed were my friends to talk to and get my feelings out. The worse thing was they told me they understood what I was going through. Believe me unless you lost your spouse you don't know what it is like. To this day some of my friends and in-laws hardly ever talk to me and it's going to be 5 years.
So be there for your friends sister in any way that she needs you because it is a very difficult time for all. Hopefully she won't lose the friends she had. That everyone is compasionate and understanding. I'm so sorry for her loss.
Reply:hats off to u!!!
try ur best to help them!!!
Reply:just be there for them and help out whenever possible.
Reply:Tell them that he is in a better place, watching over you with a smile on his face. He is now their guardian angel, making sure nothing bad will ever happen to them, and he is patiently waiting for all of them up in Heaven so they can be a family once more
Reply:I would try to get friends and family to visit them alot and spend as much time with them as possible they just lost the person that made them feel secure so they need to find that feeling of being secure and by being their and visiting them often will let them know people care and they have some one their for them! also dont show feelings of sadness around them cuz thatll just mak them feel worse try to keep a happy attitude around them
Reply:The best thing you could do now is NOT go over there. The family's still working though the changes this tragedy has brought onto them.
Just call and talk to your friend. Ask them if they need anything and you're there if they do. After about a week, call and ask to come over. Judging by what you said, I'm sure they'll be ready to see you.
I wish your friend luck through this time....at least she's lucky that you're her friend....;-)
Funeral donations?
My boss who I have worked for just passed away. Im not sure how much to donate to the charities that they have selected. And I would also like to send a flower arrangement. Is it not appropriate to send a flower arangement when they have charities listed in the obit. It is a boss but we are like family and he was the second generation of the founder and we will be continueing to work for the son who took over. They are the best bosses in the world and have done a lot for us, we are family. Any advice.
Funeral donations?
If you really want to do something, I would donate to the charities. Figure out how much you would spend on the flower arrangement and spend that amount on your donation.
I would also suggest getting a collection together for a company-wide donation for flowers so that everyone can feel involved. It sounds like the owners are very appreciated there.
Reply:Don't send flowers if it says "donations to XYZ charities in lieu of flowers". Find out how much a funeral wreath or other type of floral arrangement would cost and send that amount to the charity.
Reply:best bet would be a staff collection for the funeral arrangement which judging by what you said would be no problem along with IF the members of staff wished to also add a few dollars to one of the charities that they pick from the list as a separate donation.
Who ever does the collection tin, make sure that they account for everything, flowers, a card from all staff that donated to be sent to the family...............if anything left over ask if they could pick TWO out of the list for the remainder to be sent to.
regards
Reply:Do not sent flowers, send donation to their charity,If you want, you can buy a bouquet of flowers, and take them as an above and beyond gesture.
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Funeral donations?
If you really want to do something, I would donate to the charities. Figure out how much you would spend on the flower arrangement and spend that amount on your donation.
I would also suggest getting a collection together for a company-wide donation for flowers so that everyone can feel involved. It sounds like the owners are very appreciated there.
Reply:Don't send flowers if it says "donations to XYZ charities in lieu of flowers". Find out how much a funeral wreath or other type of floral arrangement would cost and send that amount to the charity.
Reply:best bet would be a staff collection for the funeral arrangement which judging by what you said would be no problem along with IF the members of staff wished to also add a few dollars to one of the charities that they pick from the list as a separate donation.
Who ever does the collection tin, make sure that they account for everything, flowers, a card from all staff that donated to be sent to the family...............if anything left over ask if they could pick TWO out of the list for the remainder to be sent to.
regards
Reply:Do not sent flowers, send donation to their charity,If you want, you can buy a bouquet of flowers, and take them as an above and beyond gesture.
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If you are in love with someone who dies and their partner knows you were in love with them what do you do?
If you were in love with someone else's partner and had had no sexual relationship with them and had cut off the friendship when the 'love' became too difficult (ie freindship wouldn't work so you go your separate ways)
The partner knows that you were in love (unrequited) with his deceased lover .... is it appropriate to go to the funeral and maybe throw flowers on the coffin or in the grave or is it inappropriate?
Let's say the deceased knew and the surviving lover knew that I was in love with them, although noting had happened?
If you are in love with someone who dies and their partner knows you were in love with them what do you do?
Since the surviving spouse/partner KNOWS that you were in love with the deceased, no you shouldn't go to the funeral because that would be very rude and "in your face" to the surviving spouse/partner and would only upset them at a time when that's the last thing they need.
At a time like this you MUST put consideration for the surviving spouse/partner ahead of your own wants.
Go to visit the grave later when the surviving partner isn't there, bring flowers or whatever, but don't put your name on them or they might get ripped up or thrown out by either the surviving partner or their friends.
Reply:Assuming that all the surviving partners who knew were not jealous, then YES, go say goodbye. The deceased's partner, if he has a heart and never saw you as a rival, will know your grief is real and true, just as his is, will understand your grief, will also know there is at least one other person there who feels just as he does, etc.
If the widower was jealous, then it'd be more prudent to not disrupt the funeral or bring any more negative feelings to the widower, just make a point of visiting the grave privately.
Reply:you sound like you feel very guilty, and you should be since it sounds like you almost let your feelings get out of hand when that person was living. See the problem is all within you. Not only is it all resolved now that the person is gone but the past is too, and the problem is still stuck within you alone.
The "family" only goes to the funeral and gravesite. You are neither so you should not go. No, definitely don't throw any flowers. Your plans and thoughts are inappropriate. Do not go to the cemetery ever. It's all in your mind. If your grief is overwhelming then quietly see a therapist to get over it.
Reply:If you go to the the actual funeral you might upset the spouse. I would go after the funeral and just visit alone and just take some flowers. On the day of the funeral, just say a little prayer, but go afterwards that way you don't cause additional grief. Remember, nobody has to see you mourn and it can be a more intimate thing for you. Good luck--
Reply:I feel for your situation. I was not in the position you are. My situation was I had sold up and moved to be with a partner who died two months later. He was still, technically, married. I decided to let his "widow" have her place but I did attend the funeral. He wanted me there.....but it was difficult. I wanted to do more than I could.
You have to do what feels right.
Reply:I would go to the service.. stay away from the crow.d. and go home directly after.. the service is public... Come back later out of respect for their partner and relatives and put some flowers down when nobody else is there...and remember. To remember someone one once loved one can do that anywhere.. I would only need to go once to say goodbye and keep the good memories but I would not want to shame the family and approach them.. I would attend the church service but sit way back from the rest and also not stay to offer condolences it would be a tough memory for them.. so I would spare them that.. just put flowers down when everyone else is gone.. a wreath or flowers with no message.. the person who passed on would know they are from me... that's all that matters ...xxxx
Reply:The love you speak of is universal, You loved them remember that is so very pure, nothing had to happen because all the good things were there! My question would be why leave out one another's life? I don't understand that at all. Support teach and correct one another. pass love on with examples this is what is so badly needed.
Now to answer your question - One should go to the Funeral pure and true to do what is natural to any human and animals whom has lost a dear friend and that my friend is "Mourn"!
Why not just love one another.
Reply:This is really difficult one, I wouldn't go to the funeral and I would let the partner grieve in peace, if you go you will only upset him more. I understand your feelings and I think you should go and place your flowers and say your goodbyes after everyone has left.
The partner knows that you were in love (unrequited) with his deceased lover .... is it appropriate to go to the funeral and maybe throw flowers on the coffin or in the grave or is it inappropriate?
Let's say the deceased knew and the surviving lover knew that I was in love with them, although noting had happened?
If you are in love with someone who dies and their partner knows you were in love with them what do you do?
Since the surviving spouse/partner KNOWS that you were in love with the deceased, no you shouldn't go to the funeral because that would be very rude and "in your face" to the surviving spouse/partner and would only upset them at a time when that's the last thing they need.
At a time like this you MUST put consideration for the surviving spouse/partner ahead of your own wants.
Go to visit the grave later when the surviving partner isn't there, bring flowers or whatever, but don't put your name on them or they might get ripped up or thrown out by either the surviving partner or their friends.
Reply:Assuming that all the surviving partners who knew were not jealous, then YES, go say goodbye. The deceased's partner, if he has a heart and never saw you as a rival, will know your grief is real and true, just as his is, will understand your grief, will also know there is at least one other person there who feels just as he does, etc.
If the widower was jealous, then it'd be more prudent to not disrupt the funeral or bring any more negative feelings to the widower, just make a point of visiting the grave privately.
Reply:you sound like you feel very guilty, and you should be since it sounds like you almost let your feelings get out of hand when that person was living. See the problem is all within you. Not only is it all resolved now that the person is gone but the past is too, and the problem is still stuck within you alone.
The "family" only goes to the funeral and gravesite. You are neither so you should not go. No, definitely don't throw any flowers. Your plans and thoughts are inappropriate. Do not go to the cemetery ever. It's all in your mind. If your grief is overwhelming then quietly see a therapist to get over it.
Reply:If you go to the the actual funeral you might upset the spouse. I would go after the funeral and just visit alone and just take some flowers. On the day of the funeral, just say a little prayer, but go afterwards that way you don't cause additional grief. Remember, nobody has to see you mourn and it can be a more intimate thing for you. Good luck--
Reply:I feel for your situation. I was not in the position you are. My situation was I had sold up and moved to be with a partner who died two months later. He was still, technically, married. I decided to let his "widow" have her place but I did attend the funeral. He wanted me there.....but it was difficult. I wanted to do more than I could.
You have to do what feels right.
Reply:I would go to the service.. stay away from the crow.d. and go home directly after.. the service is public... Come back later out of respect for their partner and relatives and put some flowers down when nobody else is there...and remember. To remember someone one once loved one can do that anywhere.. I would only need to go once to say goodbye and keep the good memories but I would not want to shame the family and approach them.. I would attend the church service but sit way back from the rest and also not stay to offer condolences it would be a tough memory for them.. so I would spare them that.. just put flowers down when everyone else is gone.. a wreath or flowers with no message.. the person who passed on would know they are from me... that's all that matters ...xxxx
Reply:The love you speak of is universal, You loved them remember that is so very pure, nothing had to happen because all the good things were there! My question would be why leave out one another's life? I don't understand that at all. Support teach and correct one another. pass love on with examples this is what is so badly needed.
Now to answer your question - One should go to the Funeral pure and true to do what is natural to any human and animals whom has lost a dear friend and that my friend is "Mourn"!
Why not just love one another.
Reply:This is really difficult one, I wouldn't go to the funeral and I would let the partner grieve in peace, if you go you will only upset him more. I understand your feelings and I think you should go and place your flowers and say your goodbyes after everyone has left.
Why doesn't my husbands family accept me?
My husband and me have been together for 10 years.I live 350 miles away from my parents and don't get to see them very often...i get very lonely because of this. My husband has two sisters and his parents but they don't accept me or my two children. I have tried several time to get close to them but they just treat me like the only reason they even speak to me is because i am married to their son. example: my grandmother died a year ago at the age of 103 she was like a mother to me. I didn't have a car at the time and NONE of them would help me get to the funeral. they didn't even say I'm sorry. BUT...when my sister-in-laws husband's dad died they were all up in it. Flowers,funeral arragements, everything. I don't understand. can someone help me to?
Why doesn't my husbands family accept me?
I feel your pain. Coz, I am in the same situation.
My family is also out of the country.
and mainly, my mother in law, even refuse to speak and to socialize (she told my wife that she does not respect an artist -which is kinda odd, cause she married one).
It hurts very bad, but the only thing we can do is do the best.
I am sorry if i start to sound religious but just follow the golden rule.
Do unto others what you want others do unto you.
Keep being nice to them (eventhough they are rude to you)
Keep trying to reach out (eventhough they don't want you to be around)
Keep respecting them (Eventhough they don't respect you)
Do it because you are a better person than them.
Do it out of respect for your husband.
Do it because you know that anger cannot be fought by anger.
Do it because you are a GOOD person.
Do it to prove them wrong about you.
Do it out of your kindness.
They can do whatever they want, but you will be strong and say, no matter what they do, they will only bring the BEST out of me.
Don't get into the hating game with them.. because everybody will lose in that game.
Be the bigger person!
My prayer with you..
Reply:they are freaks
Reply:I think its hard for parents to let there children go and accept that they are married and grown up. They often (from personal experience with inlaws) will not be accepting, and try and push you away. I feel is some sort of control issue, hanging on to there child type of thing. You can't make them like you but try not to feel bad. Its not your fault, I am sure you have done all you can do to be nice and polite to your in laws. As I said earlier I just thinks a matter of not wanting to accept that there son is a big boy now with a wife and kids, and if there mean to you, you just may go away, then they could take care of him again and he'd be there "little boy" again
Just my thoughts on the issue.
Why doesn't my husbands family accept me?
I feel your pain. Coz, I am in the same situation.
My family is also out of the country.
and mainly, my mother in law, even refuse to speak and to socialize (she told my wife that she does not respect an artist -which is kinda odd, cause she married one).
It hurts very bad, but the only thing we can do is do the best.
I am sorry if i start to sound religious but just follow the golden rule.
Do unto others what you want others do unto you.
Keep being nice to them (eventhough they are rude to you)
Keep trying to reach out (eventhough they don't want you to be around)
Keep respecting them (Eventhough they don't respect you)
Do it because you are a better person than them.
Do it out of respect for your husband.
Do it because you know that anger cannot be fought by anger.
Do it because you are a GOOD person.
Do it to prove them wrong about you.
Do it out of your kindness.
They can do whatever they want, but you will be strong and say, no matter what they do, they will only bring the BEST out of me.
Don't get into the hating game with them.. because everybody will lose in that game.
Be the bigger person!
My prayer with you..
Reply:they are freaks
Reply:I think its hard for parents to let there children go and accept that they are married and grown up. They often (from personal experience with inlaws) will not be accepting, and try and push you away. I feel is some sort of control issue, hanging on to there child type of thing. You can't make them like you but try not to feel bad. Its not your fault, I am sure you have done all you can do to be nice and polite to your in laws. As I said earlier I just thinks a matter of not wanting to accept that there son is a big boy now with a wife and kids, and if there mean to you, you just may go away, then they could take care of him again and he'd be there "little boy" again
Just my thoughts on the issue.
Pressing a gerber daisy?
will a yellow gerber daisy discolor if i try to press it and laminate it for a book mark i have done other flowers but nothing yellow so i am scared any help it is from a funeral so it is special.... thanks a mill.
Pressing a gerber daisy?
The problem you're going to have with the Gerbera daisy is that the petals easily separate from the center, which is quite dense. Yellow will get a bit of a golden brown tinge to it....You might want to consider purchasing a silica preserving agent and preserve it that way. You can usually get that at a craft store. Just follow the directions it is pretty easy.
Pressing a gerber daisy?
The problem you're going to have with the Gerbera daisy is that the petals easily separate from the center, which is quite dense. Yellow will get a bit of a golden brown tinge to it....You might want to consider purchasing a silica preserving agent and preserve it that way. You can usually get that at a craft store. Just follow the directions it is pretty easy.
Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
My sister was five months pregnant when the doctors told her the placenta had torn and embryonic fluid was seeping out of the sack. The doctors told her the baby wouldn’t survive and recommended an abortion, but she refused give up on something she wanted so badly. She laid flat on her back for two months in hopes of saving her son. In the seventh month, the doctors told her the baby’s lungs hadn’t developed and there was no chance the baby would ever draw his first breath outside of the womb. The doctors induced labor to expel the fetus from the womb. Because he had no lungs, the baby never drew his first breath. We had a funeral and there’s a tiny tombstone in the family cemetery beside of my grandfather’s tombstone for Dustin. We still go there, put flowers on his grave and cry over the loss of a child which was never born. As long as he was in her womb, he was alive; he moved, he had a heart beat, and she loved him as much as any mother could love a child.
Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
It Should be her choice. no one is responsible for anyone Else's soul though the Anti Abortionist , are so sure they got a Handel on what God thinks. I think they should give God credit, for being able to talk to others also. He is a Mighty God and need no one to Criticize for him. The spirit comes with the Breath of Air God Breaths in. who gained from the suffering that was done here?
Reply:I'm not exactly sure how she is a criminal. From your explanation, it sounds as if she was encouraged to abort the baby. She tried to save him and carry him to term, but it just wasn't feasible. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.
Reply:Your story has little or nothing to do with the issue of abortion.Even right to lifers respect that if the fetus is nonviable or if the mothers life is in danger abortions is right.
Reply:u cant blame her for trying to hold on to some hope there are so many stories of how the doctors were wrong and the baby was fine...miricals do happen to other people..it wouldnt have made it any easier if she had, had an abortion at an early stage u all still knew it was there.. sometimes life doesnt always go the way it should... sometimes other peoples desisions arnt what other people think they should be...she did what was right for her at the time and maternal instinct told her to hold on to hop...hey at times if we dont hols on to hope what much else have we got... take it easy on her weather u believe in god or not personally i dont but he isnt going to judge her for holding on to a baby that u knew was never gonna be...
Reply:There is no way she should be a criminal. It is hard when that happens. My mother in law had a still born baby and she regretted making the decision to carry it for as long as she could because it was more heartache. It's sad to say that no matter when he would have been born he would have been deceased. Sometimes it's easier to do it that way. I realise how devastating it can be but it's just nature (hate it or not). My sympathies to all though - it is so sad.
Reply:shoud've gotten an abortion
Reply:abortion is indeed murder, and i sympathize with you and your family. that is a tragic story. your sister had the right idea in trying to save a life, and there's nothing more she could have done. you and your family are good people.
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Should she have been allowed to have an abortion or should she be a criminal?
It Should be her choice. no one is responsible for anyone Else's soul though the Anti Abortionist , are so sure they got a Handel on what God thinks. I think they should give God credit, for being able to talk to others also. He is a Mighty God and need no one to Criticize for him. The spirit comes with the Breath of Air God Breaths in. who gained from the suffering that was done here?
Reply:I'm not exactly sure how she is a criminal. From your explanation, it sounds as if she was encouraged to abort the baby. She tried to save him and carry him to term, but it just wasn't feasible. It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.
Reply:Your story has little or nothing to do with the issue of abortion.Even right to lifers respect that if the fetus is nonviable or if the mothers life is in danger abortions is right.
Reply:u cant blame her for trying to hold on to some hope there are so many stories of how the doctors were wrong and the baby was fine...miricals do happen to other people..it wouldnt have made it any easier if she had, had an abortion at an early stage u all still knew it was there.. sometimes life doesnt always go the way it should... sometimes other peoples desisions arnt what other people think they should be...she did what was right for her at the time and maternal instinct told her to hold on to hop...hey at times if we dont hols on to hope what much else have we got... take it easy on her weather u believe in god or not personally i dont but he isnt going to judge her for holding on to a baby that u knew was never gonna be...
Reply:There is no way she should be a criminal. It is hard when that happens. My mother in law had a still born baby and she regretted making the decision to carry it for as long as she could because it was more heartache. It's sad to say that no matter when he would have been born he would have been deceased. Sometimes it's easier to do it that way. I realise how devastating it can be but it's just nature (hate it or not). My sympathies to all though - it is so sad.
Reply:shoud've gotten an abortion
Reply:abortion is indeed murder, and i sympathize with you and your family. that is a tragic story. your sister had the right idea in trying to save a life, and there's nothing more she could have done. you and your family are good people.
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Do most relatives fight all the time over funeral arrangements and splitting of their parent's assets.?
How can we minimize hate, bitterness, hurt feelings, and anger this weekend when we meet to split up some of the stuff. It is only a month since mom died and I cannot understand the big rush to do it all now and in one day..they are all stressing me out. Is this normal..the family is real dysfunctional and my brother nearly attacked me twice..once from stress of the day and saying the flower spray was too much (at the most $50 over the cheapest one)..he screamed, said I weas lying to hiom and truying to chat him, vowed revenge and broke glass in the house and overturned books...another time went craxy because I wanted to ask the lawyer what a legal paper was before signing it..he screamed, im,plied he would cheat my on the will which he can do as to how it was written and demanded my mom's house key back..we did make up but this is crazy..I am dreading Sunday and feel I will get cheated, hurt feelings, and not the things I would like...I feel like not gouing but he said I need to go
Do most relatives fight all the time over funeral arrangements and splitting of their parent's assets.?
I don't know why but it seems like that's the way MANY families get when one passes away. From what I have seen in my own family and in families of others close to me it seems like you are definitely NOT alone. I don't know why it gets so ugly with everyone arguing over who gets what, who deserves what and so on. It all seems so petty and it brings out the ugliness you never knew existed in people. Maybe it's because of the hurt losing someone close brings and that many just don't know how to deal with it any other way. Maybe it's because everyone starts to scramble for material things that will remind them of that person, somehow feeling like you have something to remember them by. Or, maybe it's just greed...claiming what they feel they've earned.
Regardless of why, you aren't alone. You should go. It may be that the other members just want to get that settled so you can all start to move on. Try to stay above the pettiness. Don't let the others drag you into that. It sounds like your brother is not taking this well and he'll have to get past it on his own. You obviously are very different and that's probably why his behavior is so surprising to you. Go and meet with them and if things get out of hand, make sure your voice is heard. If you can, let them know how you feel and how much it hurts you to see everyone fighting. If that's out of the question, I would walk away. You don't need material things to remember her by and nothing material is worth getting vicious with family, no matter how dysfunctional they may be. If there are things you want, let them know right away and leave them to fight eachother for the rest. The last thing you need is this negativity when you are grieving from the loss of your mother. It will only bring more pain. Continue to be strong and protect yourself from any more. I hope it all works out. My condolences.
Reply:bally and threatened that the money owed me would not be given knowing I had no legal recourse due to how it was set up..it was all based on trust due to circumstances beyond our control.. Report It
Reply:I never dreamed I would be scapegoated this much. I was one of the few sane and rational ones and was roundly attacked. I will never get over how they treated me and especially the betrayal of my best friend brother who turned on me Report It
Reply:repeatedly in the last 6 weeks. when she died, the family did split.I feel now I want to have no contact and maybe even move to another state but wanting to see how it pans out when everyone calms down. Report It
Reply:Unfortunately, alot of families fight over meaningless material possessions. Whenever something like this occurs in my family, I volunteer that they can have anything they want except one thing and they can't have that. That is the quality of time I spent with my loved one before they passed. That is something nobody can take from me. And that is more precious than anything on earth.
Reply:So sorry for your loss.
Its a damn shame that some people cant even wait until parents are in the ground until they start with the "Wheres mine and OBTW..I deserve more because I did (fill in the blank)!"
Ive actually heard of knockdown drag outs at the funeral homes.
Reply:you said most...
and I would say,, yes...
but not all.. it is sad but true.. good luck..
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss. Yes it is normal for conflict and confusion. It sounds like your brother isn't coping too well. From my personal experience thereis usually at least one family member who for whatever reason and that is individual as we are. They can feel like they had a closer relationship with the person who's passed on and deserve more posessions than the others. A time that is hard for all made harder by unrealistic expectations. If he is the only male he may feel it is all his task. It wont make sense from others perspective. For whatever reson it is happening. You have as much right as any in the family and will be angry at yourself if you dont get that which is most dear to you. People deal with Grief and loss in many ways. One way to take emotion away is to seek legal representation or some kind of third party. Maybe talking to your brother about what is happening for him prior to the day may help. Not knowing your relationship makes that hard. Maybe some research on grief and loss.
I hope it works out for you.
Reply:Some people think that money and material possessions are the important things in life, only to find out that things only last for so long and money can only buy happiness for a short time. The important things can not be bought or stored on a shelf. You will only be cheated if possessions mean more than the relationship you had with your mother. I am sorry that you lost your mother, but honor her by not being like your brother.
Reply:Please accept my condolences, unfortunately a death
in the family can really bring out the ugly in people.
A lot of families hurt each other over possessions
that belonged to the deceased. They forget about the
need to be there to support each other. You have a
legal right to your inheritance how ever large or small
it is. You are your mother's child and as such you should
be able to question things. Don't allow anyone to get away
with trying to intimidate you.
Reply:I can not put it any better than LIPPIE
Reply:Memories are far more special than "things"
natural cleansing
Do most relatives fight all the time over funeral arrangements and splitting of their parent's assets.?
I don't know why but it seems like that's the way MANY families get when one passes away. From what I have seen in my own family and in families of others close to me it seems like you are definitely NOT alone. I don't know why it gets so ugly with everyone arguing over who gets what, who deserves what and so on. It all seems so petty and it brings out the ugliness you never knew existed in people. Maybe it's because of the hurt losing someone close brings and that many just don't know how to deal with it any other way. Maybe it's because everyone starts to scramble for material things that will remind them of that person, somehow feeling like you have something to remember them by. Or, maybe it's just greed...claiming what they feel they've earned.
Regardless of why, you aren't alone. You should go. It may be that the other members just want to get that settled so you can all start to move on. Try to stay above the pettiness. Don't let the others drag you into that. It sounds like your brother is not taking this well and he'll have to get past it on his own. You obviously are very different and that's probably why his behavior is so surprising to you. Go and meet with them and if things get out of hand, make sure your voice is heard. If you can, let them know how you feel and how much it hurts you to see everyone fighting. If that's out of the question, I would walk away. You don't need material things to remember her by and nothing material is worth getting vicious with family, no matter how dysfunctional they may be. If there are things you want, let them know right away and leave them to fight eachother for the rest. The last thing you need is this negativity when you are grieving from the loss of your mother. It will only bring more pain. Continue to be strong and protect yourself from any more. I hope it all works out. My condolences.
Reply:bally and threatened that the money owed me would not be given knowing I had no legal recourse due to how it was set up..it was all based on trust due to circumstances beyond our control.. Report It
Reply:I never dreamed I would be scapegoated this much. I was one of the few sane and rational ones and was roundly attacked. I will never get over how they treated me and especially the betrayal of my best friend brother who turned on me Report It
Reply:repeatedly in the last 6 weeks. when she died, the family did split.I feel now I want to have no contact and maybe even move to another state but wanting to see how it pans out when everyone calms down. Report It
Reply:Unfortunately, alot of families fight over meaningless material possessions. Whenever something like this occurs in my family, I volunteer that they can have anything they want except one thing and they can't have that. That is the quality of time I spent with my loved one before they passed. That is something nobody can take from me. And that is more precious than anything on earth.
Reply:So sorry for your loss.
Its a damn shame that some people cant even wait until parents are in the ground until they start with the "Wheres mine and OBTW..I deserve more because I did (fill in the blank)!"
Ive actually heard of knockdown drag outs at the funeral homes.
Reply:you said most...
and I would say,, yes...
but not all.. it is sad but true.. good luck..
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss. Yes it is normal for conflict and confusion. It sounds like your brother isn't coping too well. From my personal experience thereis usually at least one family member who for whatever reason and that is individual as we are. They can feel like they had a closer relationship with the person who's passed on and deserve more posessions than the others. A time that is hard for all made harder by unrealistic expectations. If he is the only male he may feel it is all his task. It wont make sense from others perspective. For whatever reson it is happening. You have as much right as any in the family and will be angry at yourself if you dont get that which is most dear to you. People deal with Grief and loss in many ways. One way to take emotion away is to seek legal representation or some kind of third party. Maybe talking to your brother about what is happening for him prior to the day may help. Not knowing your relationship makes that hard. Maybe some research on grief and loss.
I hope it works out for you.
Reply:Some people think that money and material possessions are the important things in life, only to find out that things only last for so long and money can only buy happiness for a short time. The important things can not be bought or stored on a shelf. You will only be cheated if possessions mean more than the relationship you had with your mother. I am sorry that you lost your mother, but honor her by not being like your brother.
Reply:Please accept my condolences, unfortunately a death
in the family can really bring out the ugly in people.
A lot of families hurt each other over possessions
that belonged to the deceased. They forget about the
need to be there to support each other. You have a
legal right to your inheritance how ever large or small
it is. You are your mother's child and as such you should
be able to question things. Don't allow anyone to get away
with trying to intimidate you.
Reply:I can not put it any better than LIPPIE
Reply:Memories are far more special than "things"
How do you make a visible donation for a funeral?
I know how to donate, but how do you let the bereaved family know what you've done - or should you even? What is the etiquette? With flowers/wreaths there is a visible indication of your sentiments, but if you just send money to a charity how to people know you've done it? Or does it not matter, it's the donation that is important?
How do you make a visible donation for a funeral?
You send a nice sympathy card, and at the bottom of the inside of the card you write "donation to _____ was made in memory of ____ " (do not write amount, of course).
Reply:Make sure someone sees you hand the money over
Reply:As a Funeral Director with 7 years of experience, i've never seen anyone stand up and say "Hey everyone, i gave money to charity"
The best way is quietly. You leave a card for the family. Funeral directors usually take all the cards and hand them to the family in a bundle. In the card, give your sincere regrets or feelings, and say in a non condescending manor that you have or would like to make a donation in the deceased's name.
Same with flowers, don't send a big arrangment with a banner saying "Smith Family sent this" You fill out the little card.
Good luck.
P.S. If you are pretty close to the family, you may suggest to them that in the obituary they say "Instead of flowers, please make a donation to..."
Reply:I wouldn't want others to know how much I donate. The deceased probably has made a request that donations be made to XXX charity. Some have envelopes at the door of the funeral parlour, but if not there are other ways to pass funds over. You will know in your heart that you will have done the right thing - isn't that enough?
Reply:if you really want the family to know that you donated to a certain charity, why dont you just prepare a check payable to the charity of their choice , with a note "in memory of ---name of deceased--- and hand them over the said check? this way, they would certainly know you've made a donation.
in any case, if all you're after for is to help out, then there's no need to let them know. im sure the institution will be the one to inform them of your act.
Reply:The national assoc of most charities sends a note to the family, telling them of the donation, and one to you thanking you. Usually, the family has picked a charity, and nominated someone to sit and help fill out cards, and recieve and mail the donations, they should be prepared to answer questions.
But, it shouldn't matter, if you feel good about your donation, that should be enough.
There is some controversy if a person should give to the charity of the family's choice, or one of the givers. I vote the family should choose. And another controversy about what to do if the family does not choose a charity, then what do you do? On that, I vote give the money to the family, and let them choose what to do. Just note on the card with the money in it that fact, "please use this money for whatever you need, to offset expenses, give to charity."
Sorry for your loss, hope this helps.
Reply:Why give to charities? They are leaches for wanting money donated at funerals. Where is that money going to go? To pay the wage of doctors. I don't know about you, but I don't want to be paying some rich doctor money when I die. I'd rather give money to the family to pay for the funeral. I'm not going to feel guilty for wanting flowers, when the bloated charities are weasling their way into a private moment.
Reply:I think the family would like to know about your donation. I know I did. The charity may send a recite stating your donation to the family if you ask for this. I think this is a very good idea.
Reply:They don't care if you did it or not, they are not there to police everyone who did it or not.
Reply:When my Dad died, we recieved many cards from various charities, telling us the name and address of those who had donated. We sent thank you cards to everyone who made donations, sent flowers and plants, brought meals, visited Dad during his illness, etc.
When you make a donation in memory or in honor someone, the charity will always send a card to tell family that a donation has been made.
Reply:get a big flower display and put a note on it..that's pretty visible
Reply:You could do it via the funeral director, or place a cheque inside the sympathy card, or just hand them over the cheque.
(Made out to the charity) The funeral director normally hands the cheques over to the next of kin after a few weeks, and it can be handed into the bank.
Reply:notify the funeral director of your actions/intentions i just lost my brother beginning of october and almost everyone gave me money instead of flowers. the funeral director gave me a card with peoples' names on them who had mad a monetary donation also the greeting card store sells money envelopes for sympathy if you give to charity generally the charity will notify the family if you ask them too.
Reply:you can do both ie flowers and a donation to the charity chosen. everyone benefits.
loops
How do you make a visible donation for a funeral?
You send a nice sympathy card, and at the bottom of the inside of the card you write "donation to _____ was made in memory of ____ " (do not write amount, of course).
Reply:Make sure someone sees you hand the money over
Reply:As a Funeral Director with 7 years of experience, i've never seen anyone stand up and say "Hey everyone, i gave money to charity"
The best way is quietly. You leave a card for the family. Funeral directors usually take all the cards and hand them to the family in a bundle. In the card, give your sincere regrets or feelings, and say in a non condescending manor that you have or would like to make a donation in the deceased's name.
Same with flowers, don't send a big arrangment with a banner saying "Smith Family sent this" You fill out the little card.
Good luck.
P.S. If you are pretty close to the family, you may suggest to them that in the obituary they say "Instead of flowers, please make a donation to..."
Reply:I wouldn't want others to know how much I donate. The deceased probably has made a request that donations be made to XXX charity. Some have envelopes at the door of the funeral parlour, but if not there are other ways to pass funds over. You will know in your heart that you will have done the right thing - isn't that enough?
Reply:if you really want the family to know that you donated to a certain charity, why dont you just prepare a check payable to the charity of their choice , with a note "in memory of ---name of deceased--- and hand them over the said check? this way, they would certainly know you've made a donation.
in any case, if all you're after for is to help out, then there's no need to let them know. im sure the institution will be the one to inform them of your act.
Reply:The national assoc of most charities sends a note to the family, telling them of the donation, and one to you thanking you. Usually, the family has picked a charity, and nominated someone to sit and help fill out cards, and recieve and mail the donations, they should be prepared to answer questions.
But, it shouldn't matter, if you feel good about your donation, that should be enough.
There is some controversy if a person should give to the charity of the family's choice, or one of the givers. I vote the family should choose. And another controversy about what to do if the family does not choose a charity, then what do you do? On that, I vote give the money to the family, and let them choose what to do. Just note on the card with the money in it that fact, "please use this money for whatever you need, to offset expenses, give to charity."
Sorry for your loss, hope this helps.
Reply:Why give to charities? They are leaches for wanting money donated at funerals. Where is that money going to go? To pay the wage of doctors. I don't know about you, but I don't want to be paying some rich doctor money when I die. I'd rather give money to the family to pay for the funeral. I'm not going to feel guilty for wanting flowers, when the bloated charities are weasling their way into a private moment.
Reply:I think the family would like to know about your donation. I know I did. The charity may send a recite stating your donation to the family if you ask for this. I think this is a very good idea.
Reply:They don't care if you did it or not, they are not there to police everyone who did it or not.
Reply:When my Dad died, we recieved many cards from various charities, telling us the name and address of those who had donated. We sent thank you cards to everyone who made donations, sent flowers and plants, brought meals, visited Dad during his illness, etc.
When you make a donation in memory or in honor someone, the charity will always send a card to tell family that a donation has been made.
Reply:get a big flower display and put a note on it..that's pretty visible
Reply:You could do it via the funeral director, or place a cheque inside the sympathy card, or just hand them over the cheque.
(Made out to the charity) The funeral director normally hands the cheques over to the next of kin after a few weeks, and it can be handed into the bank.
Reply:notify the funeral director of your actions/intentions i just lost my brother beginning of october and almost everyone gave me money instead of flowers. the funeral director gave me a card with peoples' names on them who had mad a monetary donation also the greeting card store sells money envelopes for sympathy if you give to charity generally the charity will notify the family if you ask them too.
Reply:you can do both ie flowers and a donation to the charity chosen. everyone benefits.
loops
1 mil. Ameicans Attended Pres. Grant's Funeral. Will that Many Attend Carter's to Put Something on His Grave
What might that something be?
a. Flowers
b. Something else ... please explain
Would you stand in line for days to give Carter a final appropriate send off at his grave?
1 mil. Ameicans Attended Pres. Grant's Funeral. Will that Many Attend Carter's to Put Something on His Grave
Many people have a lot of respect for Carter. He inherited many serious problems when he became president. Actually, even with all the high interest, etc, during his term, I did better economically than under Reagan.
Jimmy Carter is probably one of the most honest presidents we have had in my lifetime. Although I wouldn't be likely to travel to visit his grave, I do respect him.
Reply:I think it would be very appropriate to put a vintage can of "Billy Beer" on his grave as that is about the only thing that made Carter stand out as president- his DUMB brother!
Reply:My dog might leave something on his grave.
Reply:I know a few people who'd enjoy walking their dogs over yours.
Carter is a decent man who'd like to see peace in the Middle East. (unlike people like you %26amp; Bush)
Reply:I'd probably stand in solemn respect, which is the appropriate response at any grave.
I wouldn't stand in line to pay respects, but that's because I hate crowds and waiting in line.
Anyone who suggests they'd do something disrespectful is a lousy excuse for a human being -- its his hypothetical grave, for God's sake. Show the man's family some courtesy, at least.
EDIT: Oooo, get a job walking dogs and visit his grave. What a charming human being you are.
Reply:Since it isn't good form to speak ill of the dead.
I won't say anything.
I want to but I am not going to .
Reply:The man who crafted the only Middle East peace treaty that has lasted? Until Carter brokered a peace deal, Egypt and Israel were in open warfare. Since then, they have been at peace.
I'd leave flowers.
(And suggesting you would desecrate the grave of anyone, much less a former president of our nation, is just not a funny joke)
Reply:I'll let my dog make a donation.
Reply:Hell no, Jimmy Carter is nothing but a fool. Only other fools believe that Carter created any peace in the middle east.
a. Flowers
b. Something else ... please explain
Would you stand in line for days to give Carter a final appropriate send off at his grave?
1 mil. Ameicans Attended Pres. Grant's Funeral. Will that Many Attend Carter's to Put Something on His Grave
Many people have a lot of respect for Carter. He inherited many serious problems when he became president. Actually, even with all the high interest, etc, during his term, I did better economically than under Reagan.
Jimmy Carter is probably one of the most honest presidents we have had in my lifetime. Although I wouldn't be likely to travel to visit his grave, I do respect him.
Reply:I think it would be very appropriate to put a vintage can of "Billy Beer" on his grave as that is about the only thing that made Carter stand out as president- his DUMB brother!
Reply:My dog might leave something on his grave.
Reply:I know a few people who'd enjoy walking their dogs over yours.
Carter is a decent man who'd like to see peace in the Middle East. (unlike people like you %26amp; Bush)
Reply:I'd probably stand in solemn respect, which is the appropriate response at any grave.
I wouldn't stand in line to pay respects, but that's because I hate crowds and waiting in line.
Anyone who suggests they'd do something disrespectful is a lousy excuse for a human being -- its his hypothetical grave, for God's sake. Show the man's family some courtesy, at least.
EDIT: Oooo, get a job walking dogs and visit his grave. What a charming human being you are.
Reply:Since it isn't good form to speak ill of the dead.
I won't say anything.
I want to but I am not going to .
Reply:The man who crafted the only Middle East peace treaty that has lasted? Until Carter brokered a peace deal, Egypt and Israel were in open warfare. Since then, they have been at peace.
I'd leave flowers.
(And suggesting you would desecrate the grave of anyone, much less a former president of our nation, is just not a funny joke)
Reply:I'll let my dog make a donation.
Reply:Hell no, Jimmy Carter is nothing but a fool. Only other fools believe that Carter created any peace in the middle east.
Can you see things in the future through your dreams?
I am mixed up about this because when i was in 4th grade i had this dream that my grandma died in a hospital room with my family, and my cousin, and all these doctors. A year later she died of cancer, and it was the same cousin who was with her in the hospital room when she died.
Also i dreamt of her funeral, and how it was sunny and there were flowers, etc. in spring. She died in april. It was an outside funeral, nothing fancy.
but can you tell the future with your dreams?...or is this just a random dream?
Can you see things in the future through your dreams?
It's true. I know because it happens to me quite a bit. It's hilarious most of the time. sometimes i just KNOW when somthing will happen, and then i remember that I had a dream about it the night before. once, me and my brother and sister were watching TV, i then said "Mom in three...two...one..." then all of a sudden my mom yells "Gabe! get in here!" from the kitchen. its freaks my friends out, but i think its cool. its usually small stuff though.
Reply:yes some people can..i no of people who have and they can still do it till this day
Reply:yes you can that is why we so often have deja vu's
Reply:Yes, it happens. Some minds are able to preconceive, if you will, a future traumatic event. Usually it is a recurring dream though.
Reply:Sometimes in your dreams, you could be flashed into the future. So yeah, you could sometimes either see into the future or just have a really good guess!
Reply:I believe I can. It has happened several times, mostly minor things, but once I predicited a big murder/ child abduction case, but I didn't realize unitl it was too late that I had dreamed it. So yes, it is very much possible. I think it means we're just really lucky people ;)
Reply:This is such a contentious question. Freud, the father of modern dream interpretation thought it was impossible to dream the future. Jung, his disciple saw many dreams coming true; in short he saw that they could see the future. Yet he believed that if you had a bad dream you could change it for the better.
Like most people, Jung didn’t think this through. Why am I saying this? I am saying this because if you see something and declare it to be a future event, it has no choice but to come along. If it didn’t it could not have been future. If you change what you have called the future it cannot come along and therefore it could NOT have been the future. It is either or, not a bit of this and a bit of that.
So, when you have seen one dream coming true, you cannot but realise that the future is not something that is made up step by step as you go through life. NO, it is something that already IS right NOW. Clearly, having a dream that showed you a future as far ahead as one year must tell you that the year you have seen in your dream only seems to be far ahead while in reality, as the dream clearly demonstrates, it is right with you at this very moment.
Although that year is with you right now, you can’t see it with your waking mind. Only when shut down your waking mind and live through your dream body will you see the future or the 4th dimension.
It is not easy to get your head around this; but it is not hopeless, there are ways of exemplifying this conundrum. Let us say we are in a car travelling from New York to Yellowstone Park. Our knowledge of Yellow Stone Park will not unfold until we actually get there. It would seem as if the Park did not exist, yet it would be there. If on the other hand we would fly in a plane, we would see the Park from a great distance. If we went up in a rocket we would see it almost the moment we took off.
You see, it all depends on the point of view we have. And here comes the crunch: when we dream we fly in a space ship while when we are awake we are travelling at best in a car.
Now you will ask: “How come I can’t see all my dreams coming true. How is it that I don’t see tonight’s dream coming true in the morning?”
A good question that. The problem with dreams is that only few come true as you have seen the funeral of your grandma. They are the dreams that come true literally. Most dreams come true metaphorically, figuratively, in the spirit of things. In other words for you to be able to see how all dreams come true you would have to learn the dream’s language. Those who write into Yahoo Answers have that ability to varying degrees. But that doesn’t even mean that they believe, as I do, that all dreams come true. They can interpret your dream because they look at it as a story and read it like a story and then tell you what they think that story meant.
So if you want to learn how to read your dreams, you must first of all treat them just like an ordinary story. In fact it is a good idea to forget for a start that you are dealing with a dream. When you forget that it is a dream, you use your common sense and that is what most dream interpretation is.
For example; if I tell you now that I am on cloud nine, you will at once understand in what frame of mind I am. If on the other hand I tell you a dream that I was riding a cloud in my dream you will say: “That is crazy, no one can do that, it must be nonsense.” Yet the dream was really saying the same thing as what I said to you by means of a waking metaphor, a figure of speech. The meaning is the same, but the way it is said is different.
A wonderful help in learning the language of your dreams is this: When you recall a dream in the middle of the day suddenly and willy-nilly, you must stop everything you do and look at the situation you are facing and then compare it with the dream you just remembered. I call this the recall rule. It is your living dictionary to the mystery of your dreams!
Just one more thing: Once you have realised through your dreams that the future is NOW you will soon realise that you haven’t a worry in life because everything you will encounter in life, everything you will do is not your doing since everything already IS. Strange to think that your grandma was already dead at the time of your dream; that we all are already dead and yet still walk about as if…
Yes indeed, life is strange.
Reply:i think things are out of this world, but i believe someway you could.
Also i dreamt of her funeral, and how it was sunny and there were flowers, etc. in spring. She died in april. It was an outside funeral, nothing fancy.
but can you tell the future with your dreams?...or is this just a random dream?
Can you see things in the future through your dreams?
It's true. I know because it happens to me quite a bit. It's hilarious most of the time. sometimes i just KNOW when somthing will happen, and then i remember that I had a dream about it the night before. once, me and my brother and sister were watching TV, i then said "Mom in three...two...one..." then all of a sudden my mom yells "Gabe! get in here!" from the kitchen. its freaks my friends out, but i think its cool. its usually small stuff though.
Reply:yes some people can..i no of people who have and they can still do it till this day
Reply:yes you can that is why we so often have deja vu's
Reply:Yes, it happens. Some minds are able to preconceive, if you will, a future traumatic event. Usually it is a recurring dream though.
Reply:Sometimes in your dreams, you could be flashed into the future. So yeah, you could sometimes either see into the future or just have a really good guess!
Reply:I believe I can. It has happened several times, mostly minor things, but once I predicited a big murder/ child abduction case, but I didn't realize unitl it was too late that I had dreamed it. So yes, it is very much possible. I think it means we're just really lucky people ;)
Reply:This is such a contentious question. Freud, the father of modern dream interpretation thought it was impossible to dream the future. Jung, his disciple saw many dreams coming true; in short he saw that they could see the future. Yet he believed that if you had a bad dream you could change it for the better.
Like most people, Jung didn’t think this through. Why am I saying this? I am saying this because if you see something and declare it to be a future event, it has no choice but to come along. If it didn’t it could not have been future. If you change what you have called the future it cannot come along and therefore it could NOT have been the future. It is either or, not a bit of this and a bit of that.
So, when you have seen one dream coming true, you cannot but realise that the future is not something that is made up step by step as you go through life. NO, it is something that already IS right NOW. Clearly, having a dream that showed you a future as far ahead as one year must tell you that the year you have seen in your dream only seems to be far ahead while in reality, as the dream clearly demonstrates, it is right with you at this very moment.
Although that year is with you right now, you can’t see it with your waking mind. Only when shut down your waking mind and live through your dream body will you see the future or the 4th dimension.
It is not easy to get your head around this; but it is not hopeless, there are ways of exemplifying this conundrum. Let us say we are in a car travelling from New York to Yellowstone Park. Our knowledge of Yellow Stone Park will not unfold until we actually get there. It would seem as if the Park did not exist, yet it would be there. If on the other hand we would fly in a plane, we would see the Park from a great distance. If we went up in a rocket we would see it almost the moment we took off.
You see, it all depends on the point of view we have. And here comes the crunch: when we dream we fly in a space ship while when we are awake we are travelling at best in a car.
Now you will ask: “How come I can’t see all my dreams coming true. How is it that I don’t see tonight’s dream coming true in the morning?”
A good question that. The problem with dreams is that only few come true as you have seen the funeral of your grandma. They are the dreams that come true literally. Most dreams come true metaphorically, figuratively, in the spirit of things. In other words for you to be able to see how all dreams come true you would have to learn the dream’s language. Those who write into Yahoo Answers have that ability to varying degrees. But that doesn’t even mean that they believe, as I do, that all dreams come true. They can interpret your dream because they look at it as a story and read it like a story and then tell you what they think that story meant.
So if you want to learn how to read your dreams, you must first of all treat them just like an ordinary story. In fact it is a good idea to forget for a start that you are dealing with a dream. When you forget that it is a dream, you use your common sense and that is what most dream interpretation is.
For example; if I tell you now that I am on cloud nine, you will at once understand in what frame of mind I am. If on the other hand I tell you a dream that I was riding a cloud in my dream you will say: “That is crazy, no one can do that, it must be nonsense.” Yet the dream was really saying the same thing as what I said to you by means of a waking metaphor, a figure of speech. The meaning is the same, but the way it is said is different.
A wonderful help in learning the language of your dreams is this: When you recall a dream in the middle of the day suddenly and willy-nilly, you must stop everything you do and look at the situation you are facing and then compare it with the dream you just remembered. I call this the recall rule. It is your living dictionary to the mystery of your dreams!
Just one more thing: Once you have realised through your dreams that the future is NOW you will soon realise that you haven’t a worry in life because everything you will encounter in life, everything you will do is not your doing since everything already IS. Strange to think that your grandma was already dead at the time of your dream; that we all are already dead and yet still walk about as if…
Yes indeed, life is strange.
Reply:i think things are out of this world, but i believe someway you could.
Poem to be read at funeral/on gravestone...any good?
Why is it my friend of old
That here you stand and weep
For me, this earth does not hold
In this ground I do not sleep
Below the dirt I do not lie
Your tears they fall in vain
I live now where none need cry
Free from bondage and all pain
My Father now has welcomed me
His beloved and humbled son
And tonight I shall dine with He
Who lived before the world had begun
Why is it that you bring these flowers
And offer them to a stone
What debt do these gifts you bring
Hope to ever atone
Gone from this earth am I
And forgiveness I can not give
But repent to those who you’ve wronged
To those who yet live
Poem to be read at funeral/on gravestone...any good?
this is a really awesome poem ..i love it..
Reply:Very good , but this is what i want on my stone i was here but now i am gone. those who knew me , knew me well those who didnt can go to hell.
Reply:Cool I like it..
Reply:this is a really good poem
That here you stand and weep
For me, this earth does not hold
In this ground I do not sleep
Below the dirt I do not lie
Your tears they fall in vain
I live now where none need cry
Free from bondage and all pain
My Father now has welcomed me
His beloved and humbled son
And tonight I shall dine with He
Who lived before the world had begun
Why is it that you bring these flowers
And offer them to a stone
What debt do these gifts you bring
Hope to ever atone
Gone from this earth am I
And forgiveness I can not give
But repent to those who you’ve wronged
To those who yet live
Poem to be read at funeral/on gravestone...any good?
this is a really awesome poem ..i love it..
Reply:Very good , but this is what i want on my stone i was here but now i am gone. those who knew me , knew me well those who didnt can go to hell.
Reply:Cool I like it..
Reply:this is a really good poem
Who plans to picket Mr.Phelps funeral?
If you do, what will you scatter on his grave?
Flowers, grenades?
What will the signs you hold up say?
Who plans to picket Mr.Phelps funeral?
If you have to become the enemy to defeat the enemy then you have lost and your enemy has won.
Reply:There would be an ironic justice to it. Although I'd rather picket a funeral of one of his loved ones.
Sorry, this has nothing to do with atheist vs Christian or religion, but any one that pickets a funeral has no human empathy whatsoever.
(Ok, so I probably could not do it, as it is one of the most insensitive things I can think of, even it was to make a point).
Edit:
Dancing might be ok though :)
Reply:please tell me he has passed on?
ima look it up
i wouldnt picket his funeral, thats the business of hate and while yes, i do think that what i feel for him is hate, im not going to spread it round.
i hope the only ppl that attend his funeral are that small and pitiful congregation of his
Reply:Possible signs for this funeral:
"God Hates Haters"
"RIP... The Man so Evil that George Bush made a law against him"
"If Phelps is in Heaven... please stop the elevator."
2 photos: 1 of Phelps and the other of Preacher Cain (from Poltergeist). Caption reads: "Separated at Birth?"
Reply:Oh, I so hope I can get to Kansas when he dies. Picketing his funeral would be fun.
What would I scatter on his grave? I'd sort of like to piss on his grave. Right after dancing on his grave, of course.
The signs... Oh, I have to think about that one.
Reply:I won't picket, but I will join Hestia and the dancers. I'll get the permits, we can have a bonfire, drums, everything. It'll be great. We can sing songs and offer him a pagan blessing to guide him to whatever afterlife he has awaiting him.
Reply:Although I realize that two wrongs don't make a right, I've considered making a road trip for that occasion. I want to make yet another public statement that, as a Christian, I want to have nothing to do with homophobic bigots, and am tired of being represented by them in the media. Fred Phelps does not speak for me.
Reply:I wouldn't be so hateful as to do that. A funeral is supposed to be for the mourners to grieve and pay their respects, not for idiots to grandstand.
Reply:I plan to scatter his grave with DDR pads.
Giz
Reply:Why is he dead?
I think most people would be having a party to celebrate.
I wouldn't waste my time going anywhere near his funeral but I certainly don't think he'll be missed or mourned by many.
Reply:If I can make it I will be there. I will not be picketing though, I will be leading a line of dancers!
Reply:One shouldn't stoop to his level.
Reply:I will not lower myself to their level.
I would probably pray that the rest will have a change of heart.
Reply:Certainly not. He won't be there. Why would I go?
Reply:I would if i could get there.
My sign would say "Welcome to hell Fred! Say Hi to Satan for me!" and throw condoms on his grave.
Reply:I won't, but I plan on setting up a tomato stand near the service.
Reply:i wouldn't waste any energy on the man, not worth it.
Reply:did he really die? You're not just teasing us are you?
Reply:RETARDS
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Flowers, grenades?
What will the signs you hold up say?
Who plans to picket Mr.Phelps funeral?
If you have to become the enemy to defeat the enemy then you have lost and your enemy has won.
Reply:There would be an ironic justice to it. Although I'd rather picket a funeral of one of his loved ones.
Sorry, this has nothing to do with atheist vs Christian or religion, but any one that pickets a funeral has no human empathy whatsoever.
(Ok, so I probably could not do it, as it is one of the most insensitive things I can think of, even it was to make a point).
Edit:
Dancing might be ok though :)
Reply:please tell me he has passed on?
ima look it up
i wouldnt picket his funeral, thats the business of hate and while yes, i do think that what i feel for him is hate, im not going to spread it round.
i hope the only ppl that attend his funeral are that small and pitiful congregation of his
Reply:Possible signs for this funeral:
"God Hates Haters"
"RIP... The Man so Evil that George Bush made a law against him"
"If Phelps is in Heaven... please stop the elevator."
2 photos: 1 of Phelps and the other of Preacher Cain (from Poltergeist). Caption reads: "Separated at Birth?"
Reply:Oh, I so hope I can get to Kansas when he dies. Picketing his funeral would be fun.
What would I scatter on his grave? I'd sort of like to piss on his grave. Right after dancing on his grave, of course.
The signs... Oh, I have to think about that one.
Reply:I won't picket, but I will join Hestia and the dancers. I'll get the permits, we can have a bonfire, drums, everything. It'll be great. We can sing songs and offer him a pagan blessing to guide him to whatever afterlife he has awaiting him.
Reply:Although I realize that two wrongs don't make a right, I've considered making a road trip for that occasion. I want to make yet another public statement that, as a Christian, I want to have nothing to do with homophobic bigots, and am tired of being represented by them in the media. Fred Phelps does not speak for me.
Reply:I wouldn't be so hateful as to do that. A funeral is supposed to be for the mourners to grieve and pay their respects, not for idiots to grandstand.
Reply:I plan to scatter his grave with DDR pads.
Giz
Reply:Why is he dead?
I think most people would be having a party to celebrate.
I wouldn't waste my time going anywhere near his funeral but I certainly don't think he'll be missed or mourned by many.
Reply:If I can make it I will be there. I will not be picketing though, I will be leading a line of dancers!
Reply:One shouldn't stoop to his level.
Reply:I will not lower myself to their level.
I would probably pray that the rest will have a change of heart.
Reply:Certainly not. He won't be there. Why would I go?
Reply:I would if i could get there.
My sign would say "Welcome to hell Fred! Say Hi to Satan for me!" and throw condoms on his grave.
Reply:I won't, but I plan on setting up a tomato stand near the service.
Reply:i wouldn't waste any energy on the man, not worth it.
Reply:did he really die? You're not just teasing us are you?
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Can you use calla lilys for a wedding?
I really love the intense colour of the deep red and blackish purple calla lilys and would love to use them for my wedding. My partner said that lilys were funeral or "death" flowers, but I thought only the white ones were...... please help!!
Can you use calla lilys for a wedding?
No, traditionally it's the other lillies (white Easter or Trumpet Lillies )that are more thought of for funerals in the United States.
Here are some photos of those glorius colors you chose for callas. Just so you know they come in mini callas mostly.
Schwartzwalder calla is the blackish eggplant color.
Flame is the bright red. Deep red is actually more burgundy.
http://www.community.theknot.com/cs/ks/p...
http://images.snapfish.com/3398%3B5:7232...
I thought I saw a bouquet with both those callas in it a couple of years ago, done by a famous wedding planner for a rock n roll type wedding with black magic roses. If I find it I will add it later. Good luck!! :)
Reply:If you like them, then ABSOLUTELY use them!! It's your wedding, use whatever you want to!
Reply:Of course you can use calla lillys on your wedding day, you can use any flower you like if you and your fiance like it and if it's in season for your wedding.
Good luck
Reply:You can use whatever flowers you want! It is your wedding and what makes you happy is all that matters! I love calla lilys my cousin had them at her wedding and they were beautiful! I just went with vilote roses for mine everyone is diffrent! Best of luck and congrads on the wedding!
Reply:I hope so, because I am too! :-D
Reply:Of course you can, there is nothing stating that lillies are only for funerals.
Reply:I had the dark purple mini callas in my wedding flowers and they were gorgeous. In fact they were the flowers the florist picked for the guys boutonnieres. My flowers were shades of purples and whites, so I had both the purples and the whites, along with freesia and roses.
Reply:I, myself, am not a fan of calla lilies. However, they ARE elegant and many people love them.
Get them with long stems, tie a ribbon around them stems and carry them across your arm sort of like how you would carry a baby. A lovely image.
Reply:Hi. No, your partner is completely wrong. Calla lilys are used all the time for weddings. They are beautiful!
Yes, go ahead and use them.
Reply:you can absolutely use them for a wedding. even the white ones. they are very popular.
www.wedideas.com
Reply:Oh yeah. They are in lots of wedding magazines. YOu can get them cheap if you get fake ones. they look just as great as real ones and you dont have to worry about wilting.
Reply:You can absoluletly use calla lillies for your wedding flower. In fact, that is one of the flowers I am using in my wedding. I thing their giant blooms are absolutely georgous.
Reply:see i always see the white ones in weddings.. ive never seen the colored ones but i'd bet theyd lok gorgeous.. however if the flowers remind ur soon to be hubby of a funeral u may want to reconsider lol it's nice that he's even showing interest in the flowers = )
congrats by the way!!
Reply:I have seen lots of calla lillies at weddings. And I think the dark ones are gorgeous!
If you like 'em, use 'em.
Reply:It worked for these brides - check out the pictures and show them to your partner. Apparently even the light-colored ones can be used.
Reply:Very expensive...but pretty. Good luck! KJL
Reply:White calla lillies are SOOOO overdone and have been used at nearly every wedding I have been to in the last two years. That being said, I have not seen them in the colors you describe! That sounds much nicer and far more striking than boring, blend into your dress, white! If you like them, use them! Good luck and best wishes!
Reply:I've seen Calla lilys of all colors including white at weddings. If that is what you really want to use, then use them.
Reply:I have been to two weddings where the bride carried Calla Lilys. Yes the white ones are for funerals the others can be used for anything. They are beautiful maybe you can blend a couple of other flowers in it to "soften" the look for your partner's sake.
Good Luck and best wishes.
Reply:They are one of the BIG wedding flowers. Theknot.com has a big feature on them right now, might give you some ideas :)
Reply:Yes, you can use calla lilies if you want to. They're very popular these days...especially the white ones.
I haven't ever seen calla lilies at a funeral...I've seen a lot of red roses at funerals though...and roses are the popular "wedding flower" How many times have you seen them at funerals?
If you want them, get them...I'm having daisies..the "sympathy flower" lol...
Have your partener read this:
Calla Lilies: Not Just For Funerals
http://www.lsuagcenter.com/news_archive/...
Can you use calla lilys for a wedding?
No, traditionally it's the other lillies (white Easter or Trumpet Lillies )that are more thought of for funerals in the United States.
Here are some photos of those glorius colors you chose for callas. Just so you know they come in mini callas mostly.
Schwartzwalder calla is the blackish eggplant color.
Flame is the bright red. Deep red is actually more burgundy.
http://www.community.theknot.com/cs/ks/p...
http://images.snapfish.com/3398%3B5:7232...
I thought I saw a bouquet with both those callas in it a couple of years ago, done by a famous wedding planner for a rock n roll type wedding with black magic roses. If I find it I will add it later. Good luck!! :)
Reply:If you like them, then ABSOLUTELY use them!! It's your wedding, use whatever you want to!
Reply:Of course you can use calla lillys on your wedding day, you can use any flower you like if you and your fiance like it and if it's in season for your wedding.
Good luck
Reply:You can use whatever flowers you want! It is your wedding and what makes you happy is all that matters! I love calla lilys my cousin had them at her wedding and they were beautiful! I just went with vilote roses for mine everyone is diffrent! Best of luck and congrads on the wedding!
Reply:I hope so, because I am too! :-D
Reply:Of course you can, there is nothing stating that lillies are only for funerals.
Reply:I had the dark purple mini callas in my wedding flowers and they were gorgeous. In fact they were the flowers the florist picked for the guys boutonnieres. My flowers were shades of purples and whites, so I had both the purples and the whites, along with freesia and roses.
Reply:I, myself, am not a fan of calla lilies. However, they ARE elegant and many people love them.
Get them with long stems, tie a ribbon around them stems and carry them across your arm sort of like how you would carry a baby. A lovely image.
Reply:Hi. No, your partner is completely wrong. Calla lilys are used all the time for weddings. They are beautiful!
Yes, go ahead and use them.
Reply:you can absolutely use them for a wedding. even the white ones. they are very popular.
www.wedideas.com
Reply:Oh yeah. They are in lots of wedding magazines. YOu can get them cheap if you get fake ones. they look just as great as real ones and you dont have to worry about wilting.
Reply:You can absoluletly use calla lillies for your wedding flower. In fact, that is one of the flowers I am using in my wedding. I thing their giant blooms are absolutely georgous.
Reply:see i always see the white ones in weddings.. ive never seen the colored ones but i'd bet theyd lok gorgeous.. however if the flowers remind ur soon to be hubby of a funeral u may want to reconsider lol it's nice that he's even showing interest in the flowers = )
congrats by the way!!
Reply:I have seen lots of calla lillies at weddings. And I think the dark ones are gorgeous!
If you like 'em, use 'em.
Reply:It worked for these brides - check out the pictures and show them to your partner. Apparently even the light-colored ones can be used.
Reply:Very expensive...but pretty. Good luck! KJL
Reply:White calla lillies are SOOOO overdone and have been used at nearly every wedding I have been to in the last two years. That being said, I have not seen them in the colors you describe! That sounds much nicer and far more striking than boring, blend into your dress, white! If you like them, use them! Good luck and best wishes!
Reply:I've seen Calla lilys of all colors including white at weddings. If that is what you really want to use, then use them.
Reply:I have been to two weddings where the bride carried Calla Lilys. Yes the white ones are for funerals the others can be used for anything. They are beautiful maybe you can blend a couple of other flowers in it to "soften" the look for your partner's sake.
Good Luck and best wishes.
Reply:They are one of the BIG wedding flowers. Theknot.com has a big feature on them right now, might give you some ideas :)
Reply:Yes, you can use calla lilies if you want to. They're very popular these days...especially the white ones.
I haven't ever seen calla lilies at a funeral...I've seen a lot of red roses at funerals though...and roses are the popular "wedding flower" How many times have you seen them at funerals?
If you want them, get them...I'm having daisies..the "sympathy flower" lol...
Have your partener read this:
Calla Lilies: Not Just For Funerals
http://www.lsuagcenter.com/news_archive/...
I need help with moms funeral arrangements. no policy and medicare only paid 2400$bal.1500$ where is help?
plus i have two brothers that cost 399.06 a piece to transport from state prison. thats 2300.00$ in all not counting flowers, family car, and etc.... what can i do for the balance? is there a program????? may 9th 2006 is dead line...
I need help with moms funeral arrangements. no policy and medicare only paid 2400$bal.1500$ where is help?
most funeral homes understand that people sometimes need help with final expenses. don't wait till the bill is due, go talk to them and explain the situation. i'm betting they will come up with a payment program that works for you. sorry for your loss.
Reply:First of all I am so sorry about your loss. I have lost a parent as well and I will only tell you that time really does heal all wounds.
Are you comfortable in asking for financial help from close family? perhaps family on the side of your mother?
If not, maybe try to arrange a payment plan with the Funeral Director. They are usually sympathetic and understanding and I'm sure if you discuss your situation they will try to do their best to accomodate you and arrange something.
Good luck to you and I hope you get through this.
Reply:church or, put out cans on the counters of all businesses with HELP ME! MY MOTHER DIED AND I NEED HELP TO PAY FOR FUNERAL , PUT YOUR PICTURE ON CANS, OR NAME.
Reply:If your mother was on public assistance, there may be a program that will help from Social Services. Check with them to see if she was and if she qualifies-it varies from state to state. Otherwise, I don't know of any programs that assist.
Reply:Talk with the people at the funeral home. Ask them if they will work with you and set up a payment plan. Most of the time they will work with you. Now on your brothers transport from jail, well if you don't have the money, I don't know of too many places that will make you a loan for this. Just tell your brothers you don't have the money, and that you are really sorry because you are paying for your mothers funeral expenses. Unless you have a special friend or family member that will loan you the 399, that is the only other way I can suggest to you for this amount of money.
Reply:how old are you?
if you are of age you may get a loan.
you should be asking around and useingthe computer to find out,if you want i may help you out but yo will have to keep in touch with me..i will help you if you let me,if not fine.
you may reach me at adyionjevon69@aim.com
omarijevon69@hotmail.com
Reply:I am really sorry about your loss, when I lost my mother 2 years ago I had to go to my local government assistance office to ask for help being I was on cash aid and food stamps at the time and my hubby was in prison and wanted to be there but understood that I couldn't afford that, maybe your brothers might understand, I understand that was their mother and they want to pay their last respects, but just try to explain to them you don't have the funds for that, and maybe they will understand. as for my local assistance program they only offered cremation which I didn't like,but I had no choice but you can run a car wash, fundraiser go to your church as the funeral home for a payment plan things like that. I know what your going through when I lost my mom she was on social security and I was 21 with a 7 month old baby at home s.s. did not pay me any thing to help out, then 4 months later I lost one of my grandfathers then 11 months later I lost my closest grandfather last year 6 days before my b-day.
I need help with moms funeral arrangements. no policy and medicare only paid 2400$bal.1500$ where is help?
most funeral homes understand that people sometimes need help with final expenses. don't wait till the bill is due, go talk to them and explain the situation. i'm betting they will come up with a payment program that works for you. sorry for your loss.
Reply:First of all I am so sorry about your loss. I have lost a parent as well and I will only tell you that time really does heal all wounds.
Are you comfortable in asking for financial help from close family? perhaps family on the side of your mother?
If not, maybe try to arrange a payment plan with the Funeral Director. They are usually sympathetic and understanding and I'm sure if you discuss your situation they will try to do their best to accomodate you and arrange something.
Good luck to you and I hope you get through this.
Reply:church or, put out cans on the counters of all businesses with HELP ME! MY MOTHER DIED AND I NEED HELP TO PAY FOR FUNERAL , PUT YOUR PICTURE ON CANS, OR NAME.
Reply:If your mother was on public assistance, there may be a program that will help from Social Services. Check with them to see if she was and if she qualifies-it varies from state to state. Otherwise, I don't know of any programs that assist.
Reply:Talk with the people at the funeral home. Ask them if they will work with you and set up a payment plan. Most of the time they will work with you. Now on your brothers transport from jail, well if you don't have the money, I don't know of too many places that will make you a loan for this. Just tell your brothers you don't have the money, and that you are really sorry because you are paying for your mothers funeral expenses. Unless you have a special friend or family member that will loan you the 399, that is the only other way I can suggest to you for this amount of money.
Reply:how old are you?
if you are of age you may get a loan.
you should be asking around and useingthe computer to find out,if you want i may help you out but yo will have to keep in touch with me..i will help you if you let me,if not fine.
you may reach me at adyionjevon69@aim.com
omarijevon69@hotmail.com
Reply:I am really sorry about your loss, when I lost my mother 2 years ago I had to go to my local government assistance office to ask for help being I was on cash aid and food stamps at the time and my hubby was in prison and wanted to be there but understood that I couldn't afford that, maybe your brothers might understand, I understand that was their mother and they want to pay their last respects, but just try to explain to them you don't have the funds for that, and maybe they will understand. as for my local assistance program they only offered cremation which I didn't like,but I had no choice but you can run a car wash, fundraiser go to your church as the funeral home for a payment plan things like that. I know what your going through when I lost my mom she was on social security and I was 21 with a 7 month old baby at home s.s. did not pay me any thing to help out, then 4 months later I lost one of my grandfathers then 11 months later I lost my closest grandfather last year 6 days before my b-day.
Jehovah witness death/funeral??
i have a friend/co-worker and he mother was just killed in a car accident...they are witnesses... what is the etiquete when it comes to condolences... is sending flowers acceptable?? i know that they don't celebrate any holidays and stuff, but we at work would like to send flowers or something... what about a card too?? if someone could help i would appriciate it..thx!
Jehovah witness death/funeral??
I am sure the family would much appreciate a card and flowers (just avoid any cards with a cross on them) - you dont have to but as a Jehovah's Witness we don't believe Jesus died on a Cross - When a couple of my friends died last year - well, it was my friends dad's who died - one died from cancer the other died suddenly through ill health i know both families requested that instead of buying flowers people use the money they would've paid for the flowers as a donation to either the Hospital their loved one was being cared at or a charity related to their illness. But if you do not know this information then in all honesty they would really appreciate your kind thoughts with the card and flowers. Death is the most unnatural thing that any of us who remain have to deal with, we grieve just as much as the rest. But our hope is different to other religious beliefs. But you are not asking about our beliefs so i won't go there, but if you want to know further feel free to email me.
Reply:thanks for caring. I am so sorry to hear the sad news. yes you can send flowers and a card. we do have a memorial for the person who died. if you go to the kingdom hall, you do not have to wear black
Reply:First, thanks for asking.
Secondly, yes flowers are fine, unless the bereaved have REALLY bad allergies:D
I suffered 2 deaths recently, I appreciated any genuine polite gestures.
Reply:yes you can give your condolences and give a card and flowers and card.
Reply:It is perfectly acceptable to send flowers and a card. But you might want to visit or call the family, because that would be appreciated. I have been to a few funerals mind you, that when the obituary was announced in the paper, the family requested a donation be made to charity in lieu of flowers.
Also the service is straight forward, a bible based talk normally for the benefit of comforting and consoling the family. Dress smart, and tasteful but you don't need to wear black or a hat or anything like that.
Reply:You can send flowers and a card. There is no dress requirement (IE: You don't have to go buy something black, nor do you have to by a dress if you don't own one).
I am sorry about their being killed. It is always sad especially when younger ones.
Love and hugs,
Debbie
Jehovah witness death/funeral??
I am sure the family would much appreciate a card and flowers (just avoid any cards with a cross on them) - you dont have to but as a Jehovah's Witness we don't believe Jesus died on a Cross - When a couple of my friends died last year - well, it was my friends dad's who died - one died from cancer the other died suddenly through ill health i know both families requested that instead of buying flowers people use the money they would've paid for the flowers as a donation to either the Hospital their loved one was being cared at or a charity related to their illness. But if you do not know this information then in all honesty they would really appreciate your kind thoughts with the card and flowers. Death is the most unnatural thing that any of us who remain have to deal with, we grieve just as much as the rest. But our hope is different to other religious beliefs. But you are not asking about our beliefs so i won't go there, but if you want to know further feel free to email me.
Reply:thanks for caring. I am so sorry to hear the sad news. yes you can send flowers and a card. we do have a memorial for the person who died. if you go to the kingdom hall, you do not have to wear black
Reply:First, thanks for asking.
Secondly, yes flowers are fine, unless the bereaved have REALLY bad allergies:D
I suffered 2 deaths recently, I appreciated any genuine polite gestures.
Reply:yes you can give your condolences and give a card and flowers and card.
Reply:It is perfectly acceptable to send flowers and a card. But you might want to visit or call the family, because that would be appreciated. I have been to a few funerals mind you, that when the obituary was announced in the paper, the family requested a donation be made to charity in lieu of flowers.
Also the service is straight forward, a bible based talk normally for the benefit of comforting and consoling the family. Dress smart, and tasteful but you don't need to wear black or a hat or anything like that.
Reply:You can send flowers and a card. There is no dress requirement (IE: You don't have to go buy something black, nor do you have to by a dress if you don't own one).
I am sorry about their being killed. It is always sad especially when younger ones.
Love and hugs,
Debbie
Iranian/Bahai funeral customs??
Our director's father has just passed away. She's from Iran and her religion is Bahai. We wonder what the appropriate thing to do is. Would a card be OK? How about a basket of fruit or some flowers? Anything you can recommend or tell us to avoid??
Iranian/Bahai funeral customs??
you can certainly send any type of flowers or cards. Baha'is have no food restrictions, so fruit is welcome too. I really don't know the customs in Iran, but here in the US, when a person passes away, instead of mourning (the usualy custom), Baha'is usually say prayers of rejoicing, because that person is going to be with God forever. I have been to parties where the person passing on is celebrated for all the wonderful things they have done in their lifetimes. It is really a beautiful thing.
Reply:A card would be OK. Bahai funerals tend to be simple.
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Iranian/Bahai funeral customs??
you can certainly send any type of flowers or cards. Baha'is have no food restrictions, so fruit is welcome too. I really don't know the customs in Iran, but here in the US, when a person passes away, instead of mourning (the usualy custom), Baha'is usually say prayers of rejoicing, because that person is going to be with God forever. I have been to parties where the person passing on is celebrated for all the wonderful things they have done in their lifetimes. It is really a beautiful thing.
Reply:A card would be OK. Bahai funerals tend to be simple.
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Funeral Condolence Gifts?
So my friends grandma passed away on the same day that her great grandmother (her grandmothers mother was being buried) So what do i get her a sympathy card and what else i want to her get flowers but i dont know which one
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Funeral Condolence Gifts?
get her some flowers dont buy roses though just find some pretty ones that catch you eyes, yeah sure she prolly is getting alot but they work wonders and a card sounds nice too ...maybe a hug and just letting them know that if they need anything that you are there for them ...i think thats the best ^^
Reply:a card offering your condolences %26amp; either a homemade meal that can easily be frozen or a flower arrangement would be good.
If you go with the meal, lasagna, chicken salad, and pies are good.
If you go with flowers just tell the florist you go with that it is for a funerla and she will pick out appropriate flowers.
Reply:While getting her flowers is a sweet gesture, she will likely be getting a lot right now and they can be alot to care for. What I did when my friend's mother passed was make a charitable donation in her mother's name. She had died from diabetes so I donated to diabetes research.
Maybe do something like that - especially if there is a charity the family regularly supports andhave them send her a card saying the donation was made in memory of her family members.
I"m sure she will appreciate whatever you do and having your support during this time.
Reply:Call a florist %26amp; have something sent to the Funeral home. Tell them your budget %26amp; what you want the flower card to read as. They will work w/ you.
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Funeral Condolence Gifts?
get her some flowers dont buy roses though just find some pretty ones that catch you eyes, yeah sure she prolly is getting alot but they work wonders and a card sounds nice too ...maybe a hug and just letting them know that if they need anything that you are there for them ...i think thats the best ^^
Reply:a card offering your condolences %26amp; either a homemade meal that can easily be frozen or a flower arrangement would be good.
If you go with the meal, lasagna, chicken salad, and pies are good.
If you go with flowers just tell the florist you go with that it is for a funerla and she will pick out appropriate flowers.
Reply:While getting her flowers is a sweet gesture, she will likely be getting a lot right now and they can be alot to care for. What I did when my friend's mother passed was make a charitable donation in her mother's name. She had died from diabetes so I donated to diabetes research.
Maybe do something like that - especially if there is a charity the family regularly supports andhave them send her a card saying the donation was made in memory of her family members.
I"m sure she will appreciate whatever you do and having your support during this time.
Reply:Call a florist %26amp; have something sent to the Funeral home. Tell them your budget %26amp; what you want the flower card to read as. They will work w/ you.
Why didn't the State Dept. send a Rep to Husseins funeral?
We had long and prosperous relations with the man-(there was a rumor Rummy sent some flowers-no govt. corruption-the $$ came out of his own pocket-not to worry taxpayer)
Why didn't the State Dept. send a Rep to Husseins funeral?
Because Saddam would have spat on the face of the Rep
Reply:Yeah flowers, he sent his congratulations to the henchmen.
Reply:Bush took his vacation to Argentina he needed the money!
Reply:Because we were trying to give Iraq some semblance of soverignty... and besides, how do you know there were no 'representitives' there?
Reply:You send a representative to pay respects...if you think that man deserved respect, regardless of any relations we formerly had with him, you are out of your mind.
Reply:They should have buried him in the hole where they found him!
And put a bullet with him first...in his hand or in his head...in memory of the thousands that he killed!
Why didn't the State Dept. send a Rep to Husseins funeral?
Because Saddam would have spat on the face of the Rep
Reply:Yeah flowers, he sent his congratulations to the henchmen.
Reply:Bush took his vacation to Argentina he needed the money!
Reply:Because we were trying to give Iraq some semblance of soverignty... and besides, how do you know there were no 'representitives' there?
Reply:You send a representative to pay respects...if you think that man deserved respect, regardless of any relations we formerly had with him, you are out of your mind.
Reply:They should have buried him in the hole where they found him!
And put a bullet with him first...in his hand or in his head...in memory of the thousands that he killed!
IF you have a funeral in Oregon....?
Is it customary to bring Flowers?
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Reply:Yes, it is customary to bring flowers when attending funerals. But there are those that would like to have donations placed (instead of flowers) in foundations or organizations that the departed has been related to when he/she was still alive. Just be sure to check before going to funerals.
Reply:Yes, particularly in Oregon. Glade you asked!
Reply:as far as i know, id say flowers are customary at a funeral....regardless of state lines
Reply:Sending flowers to a funeral is customary everywhere in the USA.
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God will bless you if you bring flowers to Oregon.
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Reply:Yes, it is customary to bring flowers when attending funerals. But there are those that would like to have donations placed (instead of flowers) in foundations or organizations that the departed has been related to when he/she was still alive. Just be sure to check before going to funerals.
Reply:Yes, particularly in Oregon. Glade you asked!
Reply:as far as i know, id say flowers are customary at a funeral....regardless of state lines
Reply:Sending flowers to a funeral is customary everywhere in the USA.
Our Uncle died recently and we want to make his funeral memorable, any ideas?
We were thinking of having a nice christian ceramony with our minister giving a prayer and decorating the capsule with purple velvet with a back stage drop with his name. Water mist would be sprayed on the flowers all around the capsule and we will inject his body with illumination to give color to his skin for more warmth and complexion. We are going to engrave his capsule with his name and before he is laid to rest we will have a band play his favorite song "Misty river". God Bless Him and In the name OF JESUS! YOUR IDEAS ARE WELCOMED...
Our Uncle died recently and we want to make his funeral memorable, any ideas?
If I was the deceased, I would be really pissed you wasted all that money.
Throw him in a dumpster and spend the money to party all weekend. You'll all enjoy it much more than that depressing crap you suggest.
Reply:Thanks.
Well, okay, but that seems like a waste of money. If you toss him in a dumpster, someone else will pay to dispose of him. Your choice. :-) Report It
Reply:This is what I want at my funeral:
bourbon, clowns, and one of those guys that makes ballon animals for the kids.
Reply:Wait until the last minute to put him in the coffin.Prop him up in a chair by the door,like a Wal-Mart greeter.He can hand out the programs.
Reply:sounds like u already have a good plan. u could do a web sight a tribute to the man he was.
will be praying for u all.
Reply:What you could do is go with your idea+ a couple of mines. Get him a site about who he was and what he accomplished during his life. Invite the visitors of the site to attend the funeral. Maybe hundreds will come, who knows. That would be memorable. I would like a couple of hundred people at my own funeral, for real. Hope I've helped you even a little bit.
Cheers!
Reply:have a theme of something he loved. For example a friend of my uncle was from Hawaii so the family had everyone who attended dress in hawaiian shirts. My bosses sister's memorial service was held in a room at her husband's brewpub. Thats how I wanna go.
Reply:You pretty much have it all covered. I am going to hire a bagpipe player for my Dad's funeral. He died a couple months ago but I'm going to spread his ashes on his parent's grave while Amazing Grace is being played.
Reply:I guess strippers, an open bar, commemorative tattoos, and a funeral pyre are out of the question?
Reply:It sounds like you have it all covered.
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Our Uncle died recently and we want to make his funeral memorable, any ideas?
If I was the deceased, I would be really pissed you wasted all that money.
Throw him in a dumpster and spend the money to party all weekend. You'll all enjoy it much more than that depressing crap you suggest.
Reply:Thanks.
Well, okay, but that seems like a waste of money. If you toss him in a dumpster, someone else will pay to dispose of him. Your choice. :-) Report It
Reply:This is what I want at my funeral:
bourbon, clowns, and one of those guys that makes ballon animals for the kids.
Reply:Wait until the last minute to put him in the coffin.Prop him up in a chair by the door,like a Wal-Mart greeter.He can hand out the programs.
Reply:sounds like u already have a good plan. u could do a web sight a tribute to the man he was.
will be praying for u all.
Reply:What you could do is go with your idea+ a couple of mines. Get him a site about who he was and what he accomplished during his life. Invite the visitors of the site to attend the funeral. Maybe hundreds will come, who knows. That would be memorable. I would like a couple of hundred people at my own funeral, for real. Hope I've helped you even a little bit.
Cheers!
Reply:have a theme of something he loved. For example a friend of my uncle was from Hawaii so the family had everyone who attended dress in hawaiian shirts. My bosses sister's memorial service was held in a room at her husband's brewpub. Thats how I wanna go.
Reply:You pretty much have it all covered. I am going to hire a bagpipe player for my Dad's funeral. He died a couple months ago but I'm going to spread his ashes on his parent's grave while Amazing Grace is being played.
Reply:I guess strippers, an open bar, commemorative tattoos, and a funeral pyre are out of the question?
Reply:It sounds like you have it all covered.
White Teeth
So Who Wants To Help Me Plan My Funeral?
No one seems to care about me when I'm alive so let's see how much they care when I'm dead. I've got some prices on the casket. Anyone know a good flower arranger?
So Who Wants To Help Me Plan My Funeral?
I'd rather plan your death.
Reply:just get it over with and die let someone else worry about your funeral.i got a spare bit of ground down the back if some else digs the hole we'll just throw you in there.give the worms and grubs a feed.how are you going to know how much they cared if your dead?your a long time dead and you dont get a second chance.theres lots of ppl that will help you but you wont get sympathy of them.your choice mate,help,sympathy or death.i know which one i'd pick?
PS.anyone who thinks this is harsh tough titties,this stuff shouldn't be used for anyones amusement.
Reply:Can you leave me that awesome avatar in your will please.
Reply:I hope this is a sick joke.I dont know you but I dont want you to die.
Reply:I'm really better at planning fund raisers - exactly how expensive is that casket?
Reply:No thanks. Interesing avatar by the way......
Reply:Why get a casket, go with cremation and get sprinkled somewhere.. Then your spirit will be free to haunt anyone that messed with you..
Reply:meme is such a wonderful person!!! Now about you, i agree with meme. Flowers are too expensive... How about you stay alive, its cheaper for the both of us.
Reply:no thanks, i am booked
Reply:NO!! don't be so stupid..get your head out of the dirt and start living your life.
Reply:We'll sprinkle you over the ocean, much more romantic!
Reply:Walmart has some beautiful flowers, and you only have to give them 48 hours notice...Always low prices...always. Peace!!!! Or Should I say..RIP
Reply:Stop playing around and go play your videogames or something.
So Who Wants To Help Me Plan My Funeral?
I'd rather plan your death.
Reply:just get it over with and die let someone else worry about your funeral.i got a spare bit of ground down the back if some else digs the hole we'll just throw you in there.give the worms and grubs a feed.how are you going to know how much they cared if your dead?your a long time dead and you dont get a second chance.theres lots of ppl that will help you but you wont get sympathy of them.your choice mate,help,sympathy or death.i know which one i'd pick?
PS.anyone who thinks this is harsh tough titties,this stuff shouldn't be used for anyones amusement.
Reply:Can you leave me that awesome avatar in your will please.
Reply:I hope this is a sick joke.I dont know you but I dont want you to die.
Reply:I'm really better at planning fund raisers - exactly how expensive is that casket?
Reply:No thanks. Interesing avatar by the way......
Reply:Why get a casket, go with cremation and get sprinkled somewhere.. Then your spirit will be free to haunt anyone that messed with you..
Reply:meme is such a wonderful person!!! Now about you, i agree with meme. Flowers are too expensive... How about you stay alive, its cheaper for the both of us.
Reply:no thanks, i am booked
Reply:NO!! don't be so stupid..get your head out of the dirt and start living your life.
Reply:We'll sprinkle you over the ocean, much more romantic!
Reply:Walmart has some beautiful flowers, and you only have to give them 48 hours notice...Always low prices...always. Peace!!!! Or Should I say..RIP
Reply:Stop playing around and go play your videogames or something.
I am going to a viewing today the funeral is tommorrow. The father and son of the woman are friends of mine a
and my sons. We see them reguarly at practice daily. My question is if you know that they are not plant or flower people what should i give as a condolence gift? Money, card, book any suggestion would be great. Will be going there in a couple of hours i should have asked sooner.
I am going to a viewing today the funeral is tommorrow. The father and son of the woman are friends of mine a
I would suggest a card with money in it. That is more appropriate than anything. I feel that flowers are gettin old. My mom has told me to give her flowers while she live b/c once she is dead and gone, she can't smell them. That is a good point and why spend money on flowers instead just give money to the family...I'm sure they can use it for something. I'm sorry to hear about the lost.
Reply:I would do a simple card if anything at all - the fact that you are going shows that you are sympathetic and care about them.
Reply:When someone in my family died, people always brought food over to the house. We always bring food to people's houses when someone dies as well.
Reply:maybe just a card to show you care. also turn up to teh service and offer sympathy etc. maybe invite them round to dinner
Reply:yes to above, a card---maybe if you have a photo of the deceased w/ you or members of your family (one they may not have), get a frame from walmart and give it to them
Reply:I've seen where people will donate to a charity of the person that died.(Cancer, Diabetes etc)Call the funeral home,I'll bet they can advise you.
Reply:Since flowers are not an option, a card expressing your sympathy is the most appropriate action to take. Trust me, when a loved one dies, gifts are not on your mind. Often it takes days for family members to open the cards. It is a nice and simple way to show your concern for them and will be appreciated.
Reply:Usualy you give a plant or flowers however if they don't like those things then maybe you can give money towards the deceased favorite charity and a card doesn't hurt...hope this helps
Reply:They will have a memorial box at the funeral home for monetary donations...that will help the family out more than flowers anyways!!!!
Reply:A lot of times the family will just ask that you make a donation to a charity like the heart association if the person had heart disease or cancer research if they had cancer.
Reply:I've never known of people giving "gifts" at a funeral!
Flowers are given to the dead out of respect for the beauty they brought into our lives when they were alive!
Give nothing! Maybe make them a meal.
Reply:''Get well'' cards allways work 4 me
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I am going to a viewing today the funeral is tommorrow. The father and son of the woman are friends of mine a
I would suggest a card with money in it. That is more appropriate than anything. I feel that flowers are gettin old. My mom has told me to give her flowers while she live b/c once she is dead and gone, she can't smell them. That is a good point and why spend money on flowers instead just give money to the family...I'm sure they can use it for something. I'm sorry to hear about the lost.
Reply:I would do a simple card if anything at all - the fact that you are going shows that you are sympathetic and care about them.
Reply:When someone in my family died, people always brought food over to the house. We always bring food to people's houses when someone dies as well.
Reply:maybe just a card to show you care. also turn up to teh service and offer sympathy etc. maybe invite them round to dinner
Reply:yes to above, a card---maybe if you have a photo of the deceased w/ you or members of your family (one they may not have), get a frame from walmart and give it to them
Reply:I've seen where people will donate to a charity of the person that died.(Cancer, Diabetes etc)Call the funeral home,I'll bet they can advise you.
Reply:Since flowers are not an option, a card expressing your sympathy is the most appropriate action to take. Trust me, when a loved one dies, gifts are not on your mind. Often it takes days for family members to open the cards. It is a nice and simple way to show your concern for them and will be appreciated.
Reply:Usualy you give a plant or flowers however if they don't like those things then maybe you can give money towards the deceased favorite charity and a card doesn't hurt...hope this helps
Reply:They will have a memorial box at the funeral home for monetary donations...that will help the family out more than flowers anyways!!!!
Reply:A lot of times the family will just ask that you make a donation to a charity like the heart association if the person had heart disease or cancer research if they had cancer.
Reply:I've never known of people giving "gifts" at a funeral!
Flowers are given to the dead out of respect for the beauty they brought into our lives when they were alive!
Give nothing! Maybe make them a meal.
Reply:''Get well'' cards allways work 4 me
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