If you are in love with someone who dies and their partner knows you were in love with them what do you do?

If you were in love with someone else's partner and had had no sexual relationship with them and had cut off the friendship when the 'love' became too difficult (ie freindship wouldn't work so you go your separate ways)



The partner knows that you were in love (unrequited) with his deceased lover .... is it appropriate to go to the funeral and maybe throw flowers on the coffin or in the grave or is it inappropriate?



Let's say the deceased knew and the surviving lover knew that I was in love with them, although noting had happened?
If you are in love with someone who dies and their partner knows you were in love with them what do you do?
I'd go to the funeral if it's an open one (general population invite), if not, stay out. Perhaps there are some calling hours you could go to. But keep a low profile, don't approach the partner unless they approach you, don't make a big scene or leave personal momentos on the coffin or anything like that.
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