Why doesn't my husbands family accept me?

My husband and me have been together for 10 years.I live 350 miles away from my parents and don't get to see them very often...i get very lonely because of this. My husband has two sisters and his parents but they don't accept me or my two children. I have tried several time to get close to them but they just treat me like the only reason they even speak to me is because i am married to their son. example: my grandmother died a year ago at the age of 103 she was like a mother to me. I didn't have a car at the time and NONE of them would help me get to the funeral. they didn't even say I'm sorry. BUT...when my sister-in-laws husband's dad died they were all up in it. Flowers,funeral arragements, everything. I don't understand. can someone help me to?
Why doesn't my husbands family accept me?
I feel your pain. Coz, I am in the same situation.

My family is also out of the country.

and mainly, my mother in law, even refuse to speak and to socialize (she told my wife that she does not respect an artist -which is kinda odd, cause she married one).



It hurts very bad, but the only thing we can do is do the best.

I am sorry if i start to sound religious but just follow the golden rule.

Do unto others what you want others do unto you.



Keep being nice to them (eventhough they are rude to you)

Keep trying to reach out (eventhough they don't want you to be around)

Keep respecting them (Eventhough they don't respect you)



Do it because you are a better person than them.

Do it out of respect for your husband.

Do it because you know that anger cannot be fought by anger.

Do it because you are a GOOD person.

Do it to prove them wrong about you.

Do it out of your kindness.



They can do whatever they want, but you will be strong and say, no matter what they do, they will only bring the BEST out of me.



Don't get into the hating game with them.. because everybody will lose in that game.

Be the bigger person!

My prayer with you..
Reply:they are freaks
Reply:I think its hard for parents to let there children go and accept that they are married and grown up. They often (from personal experience with inlaws) will not be accepting, and try and push you away. I feel is some sort of control issue, hanging on to there child type of thing. You can't make them like you but try not to feel bad. Its not your fault, I am sure you have done all you can do to be nice and polite to your in laws. As I said earlier I just thinks a matter of not wanting to accept that there son is a big boy now with a wife and kids, and if there mean to you, you just may go away, then they could take care of him again and he'd be there "little boy" again

Just my thoughts on the issue.