Can someone help me?

Does anyone know what is proper ettiquite for funeral flowers.

do the children pay for the casket spray of flowers when one of the parents passes away. or does the spouse pay for it?

we want to know as my husband is unsure if he is to give money to his Mom for flowers or not.

Thank you for your help.
Can someone help me?
There's no set right or wrong for this because families have different financial means. It would be thoughtful if your husband took his mother aside and simply said, "Mom, what would you like to do? I'm prepared to help, but want to honor what you want." Blessings for your husband and you for being so sensitive and loving.
Reply:It would be a nice gesture for your husband to offer to help his mom pay for the casket spray. I'm not really sure what is considered proper, but he should talk to her about it.
Reply:He probably should offer no matter what the ettiquette. I mean, considering, he is offering the money to his mom. And, I think his father died by reading your post. I am sure his mother is in tremendous pain. He should do anything he can to help.
Reply:When my Dad died, my brothers and I purchased the casket spray. My Mom was in too much shock to even think about flowers. As a matter of fact, my brothers and I took care of all the arrangements, greeted mourners during family visitation, and wrote all the thank you cards.



I don't know what etiquette dictates during this difficult time, but usually the grieving spouse is just going through the motions immediately before, during and after the death and burial of their loved one.



If your husband and his siblings could help your mother in law, that would be a nice gesture.
Reply:The family does it. Whether the children, the parents, or some combination.

Your husband should offer to give his Mom some money, and she'll take it if she needs it. Other siblings should offer to give if they can afford it - if they can't, that's OK too.

I have a large family, and one of the better-off children bought the spray for Mother. Some gave her a share of the money, some didn't because they couldn't.
Reply:Most of the time if there are more then one child then they usually get together with the funeral home at talk about flowers. Like in general sense. How many or this that or the other then and then ONE bill is totaled and the family pays for that.



Not. one child pays for this and one child pays for another..