How to deal with getting snubbed at a funeral?

my sons girlfriend just had a death in the family and they are excluding him from everything. there was bad blood between my son and the deceased but his girlfriend has been living with us for the last 5 months. what can i do to help him deal with this and should i send flowers or make a charitable donation and how do i relate to her knowing that she would not stick up for her and my sons relationship,they are engaged.
How to deal with getting snubbed at a funeral?
he need not go but you can send flowers and thats all
Reply:When people are going through a death in the family, they need to do what they can to get through it. They just don't have the energy to worry about social niceties. This is why everyone around them has to be extra specially sensitive.



I know this is tough because you see your son being hurt. But he's a big boy, and he has to deal with it himself. What you want to do is to show him what classy behavior is. If your behavior is above reproach, they are the ones with egg on their face.



I don't know that it's necessary to send flowers, but I would send a card. And, next time you see or speak to them, be sure to offer your condolences.
Reply:It's probably necessary to make some gesture of condolence, a small bouquet of flowers or something. It sounds like your son needs your help right now, though. Whether or not your son's girlfriend sticks up for him is not really your concern, although of course it upsets you. If you get in the middle of their relationship you won't make it any better. Ask your son what kind of help he needs from you right now, and really listen.
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