When someone you knew died, how long before you visited the cemetery to place flowers or just remember?

Please state if person was buried within 1 hour drive or further away and this does not include the funeral service.
When someone you knew died, how long before you visited the cemetery to place flowers or just remember?
I had a childhood friend who went through postpartum depression and she shot herself in the head 3 days after she gave birth. She died 10 years ago and i have not been able to visit her. Somehow, something keeps me from going.

I know I have to go especially when I drive by the cemetary she's in, but I can't get myself to do it. I will eventually, I guess I dont want to put an end to that chapter and I should.
Reply:IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO DO SO,THEN THERE IS NO TIME FRAME TO VISIT. IT'S WHEN YOU FEEL THE NEED TO VISIT TO SHOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE OR JUST MISSING THAT PERSON. GO AHEAD AND PUT YOUR FLOWERS DOWN NO MATTER HOW SHORT OR LONG THAT PERSON WA BURIED, AND THAT'S MY ANSWER TO YOU!
Reply:My mom died March 28,2004. I haven't been back to her grave since the day she was buried.She's here with me in my heart,I don't feel the need to go to the cemetary!
Reply:WHEN YOU FEEL THE NEED TO TALK TO THAT PERSON YOU CAN GO THERE TO FEEL CLOSER TO THEM. DON'T LET YOURSELF GET DEPRESSED BY GOING THERE TO OFTEN EITHER
Reply:My mother has been dead for 7 years and she's buried only 15 minutes away, but I haven't visited her grave in about 3 or 4 years. I feel bad but I don't have a car and it's not like I can ask my step-mom to take me. I made a memory book of my mother full of my favorite pictures of her. Plus I have a lot of her old jewelry and such so I think just remembering is plenty.
Reply:As often as you like.

Holidays, Birthdays etc.
Reply:It would depend on how close I was to the deceased..I would follow my heart and visit/pay tribute to them as often as my heart and soul told me I wanted to do it. This is of course, if I lived close enough to the cemetery to go there as I wished...if across country, probably whenever I was in the area. Greiving hasn't a "timetable" and is something each person does on their own time schedule.

Peace be with you.
Reply:Any time YOU feel like it. It's about honoring them, remembering them and taking care to say goodbye in a good way.
Reply:It is honoring the person, but do they really know that you're doing it? I personally believe we do this as a way to remember them for ourselves, to bring good memories back and feel like we are honoring them. Hopefully, they are up in Heaven kickin it not worrying about a thing. So, my answer is this: do it whenever you feel like it. If you feel like it would make you feel better go for it. If you feel like it's too soon and you need some time, do that.
Reply:All my lost loved ones are buried close by. I visit them as often as I can.
Reply:When ever you want to and it doesn't matter how fare it is it's about going and showing your respects to them and remembering them.For me it's hard to go to there grave sites but I never forget all those who I love who are now gone. so if you can't go to there grave site then remember them in your thoughts for they can feel that too and the dead always know when you need them and when your thinking of them.
Reply:usually once a year on a holiday like thier birthday or some day that brings good feelings. if they are within an hour driving. otherwise i would go there when i was in town
Reply:its how ever comfortable u are w/ visiting the cemetery. rmembering a loved one or dear friend is something that is special to not just their family but to u as well. it may be hard the first time but it will get easier. it shouldnt matter how far away the person is buried, unless its another state, to go visit.
Reply:you can remember them and talk to them anytime you want. a cemetary is just a body it doesnt mean anything. their soul is with you all the time.
Reply:My mother passed away 1 1/2 months ago. I was with her when she died, went through the whole prep thing with my 6 other brothers and sisters. It is something I wish on nobody, and had the blessing of having my immediat family through out the ordeal. anyway, I live 330 miles away and made this memorial day a special thing. Most put plastic flowers etc on the graves, I wanted live flowers, fixing up the grave site and other things.

I will be back in a few months and probably 3-4 times a year. "Hoping" to visit it at least 2 times a year. on or around her birthday and memorial day.
Reply:if you really cared about them you shouldnt be asking this question!!!!! you visit them whenever you need to and whenever you feel you need to check on them!!