My Granddad wanted to know if I was going so he could arrange the catering. I was a bit taken aback.
I don't want to upset him or anything. My Great-Gran had dementia and I didnt see for about 5 years cos this would have upset her. I have never been to a funeral and the thought really scares me.
Should I go to the funeral? I might just send some flowers along with my Mum and Dad who are going.
p.s I am 20 (just incase you were thinking i was a kid)
Should I go to my Great-Grans Funeral?
You should go and honour her life, and be there to comfort your parents and grandparents. Don't be scared of funerals, they are a way of saying goodbye and they help with the grieving process.
Reply:The idea of sending flowers is just fine!...You don′t "have to" go, just send him condolences, I′m sure your mom and dad will do well enough of it..
Reply:You should go. I was 19 when I went to my first funeral and it was my grandfather's. I was upset because he died and because I'd never been to one before, but I went to the wake, the funeral, everything. Even if you haven't seen her for 5 years and she had dementia, she was still your great-grandma. Mine died a year after my grandfather--I hadn't seen her in a while but I still went to her funeral too.
Reply:Go and pay your respects. Start ACTING like a 20 year old.
Reply:Yes, go to the funeral. Whether you are 20 or 80, a person learns most about themselves in how they handle death. Don't be like me, I avoided all funerals til this year and I am 33. My father's funeral was two days ago. It was the hardest thing in my life. Do you know what mattered most? Not the dead body, not the names of people, not him being physically gone, but that each person who came, prayed. . .for my dad and family and that meant so much to me. I didn't take tally of who was there, but someone was there praying. Your great grandfather can still use those prayers. And it doesn't get easier as you get older. But it's so important to have Faith and know heaven exists. Don't regret it later in life, you can't change it. Today you have a choice. Make the right choice. Life is full of billions of choices and believe it or not, each choice leads to something. It may not come up again until you're 50, but each choice has an impact. Go to the funeral. And pray. You don't have to do anything more. Don't be scared, God will be there too.
Reply:My great nan died last year at the age of 99 years old just a week before her 100th birthday. We had all made plans to go out and see her in Barbados but unfortunately she got sick and died before that happened.
The first time I saw my great nan was at her funeral, I had never seen her before. I felt that I should go and pay my respects and be with her in death even though I never got to meet her in life.
Even if you didn't see her for five years, I think it might be an idea for you to go to the service. There's nothing to be scared of as you'll be surrounded by family members right?
Reply:go if only to support your family, you might even learn things about your family that you didn't know.
Reply:I think you should go. This is something you will never, ever, have the chance to do again. When you get older, you get more family orientated, and would probably regret not going. There is nothing to be scared of. Why are you frightened? It looks as though your family have been over-protective of you.
My Mother wouldn't let me go to my Grandmother's funeral when I was 11. She was the only grandparent I ever knew, and 50 years on, I still haven't forgiven my Mother. My daughter has been going to family funerals since she was 5.
Reply:if your great gran is important to you, i guess you should go... this would be the last time you'll have a glance of her...anyway as you have mentioned, you're not a kid anymore...i guess you should'nt be afraid or something, besides its your great gran....
Reply:Did you know her? If you didnt know her then i dont see the point in going.If you did know her then i would go.
Reply:I THINK SHE WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO GO
Reply:you're 20 years old and never been to a funeral? count yourself lucky and go to support your family
Reply:You're 20 and have never been to a funeral? How lucky for you.
You go. It doesn't matter that you hadn't seen her in five years. It wouldn't matter if you'd never met her. She was family. You go to pay your respects to her and out of respect for your family. Face your fears, and your family. Don't you think your grandfather, who just lost his mother, would rather have a hug from you rather than flowers. He'll appreciate it. They'll appreciate it. You'll be a better person for it.
Reply:Perhaps you should go to support your Grandad. Having recently lost someone close to me I found it comforting to have my family around me at the funeral. There's really no need to be scared although I do understand why you feel that way. And even if you haven't seen you Gran for a while it's a mark of respect to attend her funeral. But mostly I think you should go for your Grandads sake, he has lost his mother after all.
Reply:Is there any way you can just go to the reception? Even if you weren't that close to your Great-Gran, I feel as though a funeral is a time to support those who have lost loved ones. Your granddad would probably like to see you there, as he just lost his mother and it would be nice to remind him that he still has a lot of other family there to love him. I would suggest talking to your parents about it. If you're really scared about going to the funeral, see if you can just go to the reception. It might be a good experience to go to both though anyway. As scary as it seems, there's going to be another situation along the line where you'll need to go and it might be good to experience something scary for the first time while you're with your parents.
Reply:Please go. Your granddad may appreciate the support
Reply:She was your blood relative, so I can not see a problem with you going along. Your Grandad I am sure would be very pleased to see you especially as you hav'nt visited her for 5 years. Be brave and go
Reply:Go with your gut instinct. If you don't feel up to it, don't go. You can tell your grandad you would rather your last memory of great gran is not at her funeral. However, usually family and friends get together afterwards and this is a good way of sharing nice memories. Quite often you find out things about your family you never knew. It can help with the grieving process. Good luck
Reply:I know this is hard for you and you will be a little nervous, but you really should go for one to support your parents, number two to support your grans and number three to get over your funeral jitters, it is a part of life and you will be attending others in your lifetime. Grin and bear it for your own self sanity.
Good Luck!
P.S. Take a friend if you can for support.
Reply:at some point in yr life u will have to go to a funeral so may as well start now, and it shows respect for yr great gran and yr family. its not as scary as u think, my kids were late teens when my dad died and they wanted to come although they were a bit worried however they took it in their stride and now would have no prob going to a funeral. good luck
Reply:well if you still love your gran then you should go but if you dont then i think you still should go because well she was your blood and part of your family even if they didnt recognize you like it
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